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RIHANNA AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

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Author: Kim Bayne
Published: December 27, 2012 at 5:36 am

I do not have any respect for Rihanna. Why should I? She does not appear to have any for herself. Rumors have been flying about her reconciliation with Chris Brown, the man who was convicted of causing the injuries above to Rihanna in 2009, for months now.
Whether or not they are ‘back together’ has been the hot topic around water coolers since mid July.Confirmation or denial is redundant. Rihanna’s body language around Chris Brown speaks volumes. These pictures show that all is forgiven and that she is ready for Round 2. Pun intended. Rihanna is showing the world that she cares so little for herself that she will happily keep the company of a man who caused her injury. A man who was convicted of and plead guilty to causing her injury. This young woman had photographs taken and displayed around the world of her battered face. Yet three years on, she is indicating from her behavior that she has forgiven him. Her body language is telling the world that its ok to beat up Rihanna, she will forgive, forget and also give you a hefty dose of sexy eyes in public.

Rihanna does not have the respect for herself to keep away from this man. It is perfectly natural that she may miss him. She admitted in an interview with Oprah Winfrey in August of this year that he was the love of her life. Complicating her feelings might be the fact that their initial relationship ended unexpectedly, violently and abruptly. That sort of situation involves a grieving process, so Rihanna could have been forgiven in the immediate aftermath of tha trauma for being confused and unsure of herself.
What she needs to realize now, three years on, is that what Chris Brown did to her was an act of violence. As hard as it is for her to sever her feelings for this man, she must learn or be taught that what he did to her is not acceptable behavior for a person to do to another person at all, let alone someone they are in a relationship with. She must gain the skills necessary to reconcile in her mind that a person who truly loves her would not want to behave like that toward her and that she is the only one who can demand how she is treated by men.

Her behavior now is sending him a message that she will tolerate behavior from him toward her that is violent and abusive. She has demonstrated her self-worth is not important enough to sever the bond she shared with this man. Chris Brown will learn from her behavior that he can get away with unacceptable behavior without consequence from Rihanna. That he can be disrespectful and abusive and she will tolerate it.Rihanna may be a superstar but to me she is another statistic. Another woman who lacked the confidence and self-respect to take a stand and say NO, I am not going to allow myself to be treated this way. Another woman who gave her self-worth a backseat to the fear of being without a man. Rihanna outwardly appears to be a strong, independent women. Yet she is really a victim of domestic violence who believes her abuser’s remorse, more than she believes in her own inner strength and her right to a loving partner who will treat her how she deserves to be treated. Rihanna is just another women who went back to an abusive partner, believing that it would never happen again.

201 Responses to RIHANNA AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

  • realthing says:

    HE WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE. #THATISALL!

  • Belly Bang says:

    Some may not like the article but its ballsy, straightforward and plain. Food for thought. :nerd

  • Real says:

    RIGHT YAH NOW ,…IT LOOK LIKE A DEAD SHI WAH DEAD …SELF SACRIFICE …FROM DI PIC IT ALL A LOOK LIKE HIM GUN BUT AR ….RIGHT INNA DI CHEEK BONE WEH HANG OFF…NEXT TIME HIM BEAT AR IT MIGHT JUST BE FATAL ..DI BWOY NUH RATE AR

  • Original Goodas says:

    The pics I saw did not look like this. and the truth of the matter is, if u lick a man expect fi him lick u back. me know my brother naa tek no lick and me tell my son say if a gal bright enough fi lick u claat her back. come on now. We a preach domestic violence and u have some woman a beat them man and a true di man shame fi talk. like this t me everything goes both ways

    they are young and in love and its clearly riri don’t gives a rats ass what any body say. she still making her money and she seems happy.

    I’m sure she wont hit him again so he wont have to buss her ass

  • sexy eyes says:

    Dem writer yah and media websites need fi jus stop waste dem time dem cudda write article and put up story till di world end it nah guh stop har from duh wah she want she nuh really have a care in di world fi weh ppl think and say erebody a seh she a dis and dat wah happen to chris brown him can mek decisions to and run har

  • Belly Bang says:

    Domestic Violence, especially one to this extent, is unacceptable. Far too long persons have found all sort of ways to minimise or justify this shit. They say “it is between man & woman”, “its nobody’s business” etc etc. But what they fail to realise is that domestic violence is society’s problem, it aint confined to the bedroom.

    The children are affected, the neighbours too, police and court time is taken up, resources that can be directed to other areas are taken up. Domestic violence has many children, some being rape and murder. When is the line drawn?

    Forgiveness is a must, when you have life and limb and the strength of God. But forgiveness is the first step. What takes place next is dependent on a honest look inwards by the victim as well as counseling and emotional rehabilitation.

  • Real says:

    Money is not everything …well if she never want anybody to talk about her she should not have done all those interviews….so no matter how RICH she is this is a very POOR choice….and regardless of what I think or any nobody else thinks ..a lot of young girls are watching her …and it is not ok to hit any one …her face says it all

  • Belly Bang says:

    Well, I hope its doesnt happen again.

    Self defence is different from retaliation and that is why HE PLEADED GUILTY, THERE WAS NO TRIAL!!!! CAUSE HIM KNOW HIM WRONG & BY LAW HIM WRONG!!!!!!!!!!.

    Further, this blame the woman thing & saying she brought it upon herself must stop. A woman slaps a man & him tun round & pound her into the ground & that makes it right??

  • Real says:

    Belly u know a dat mi a do a ting pon…domestic violence …breed up all sorts of attitudes in children who become adults ..they have no control over emotions…and such and basically it nuh mek nuh sense a person love you and dem nuh love dem self

  • Belly Bang says:

    Look how many videos there are on youtube and elsewhere of men beating women because ” di women diss him”, ‘di woman search him phone”, “di woman tump him”.

    And that tump, diss or searching of phone is met with a relentless beating & pounding while everyone looks on, including the camera person, and laughs. And what will people say, she brought it upon herself???? Really now!!

  • Real says:

    personally mi nah tell my nephew or brother fi lik back nuh oman because it wi happen again and again and di nex time all when di oman nuh lik him ..him draw him fist

  • Belly Bang says:

    Real, mi have certain issues mi think really strongly about and two of them are domestic violence & mental illness. Society’s attitude needs to change, especially amongst black people (yeah mi say it)

    By extension, look at that girl in India who was raped by men on a public bus, she died by the way undergoing treatment in Singapore. Women are treated as second rate citizens there and abuse and rapes are pushed beneath the carpet and not treated as a priority by the authorities.& it took this violent act (which may not have been an isolated incident)

    Please read this article & see what indifference & a history of ‘blame the woman” can lead to…..

    http://news.yahoo.com/attackers-india-rape-case-face-murder-charge-102033151.html

  • Original Goodas says:

    i’m not saying its right. but like I said keep ur hands to ur self. I have this friend right now that her husband have restraining order against her she caa go near him, her 3 kids or the house.
    One day she call me a holla say him lick her and we call police. when we go round deh a she a come out in a cuff. because this is America we love bawl bout woman being abused. lo and behold she in deh a beat off the man every minute di man file how much complain and she no know when him lick her back in her rass now. when police come she a bawl out how him a abuse her.

    she had to leave her house and the kids.

    We go court the man say his parent taught him not to hit female but if she no get her way she waa fight him cause she know him naa lick her back.

    there was 3 other cases that day where in domestic affairs a di woman dem wrong.

    Me fraid a lick so me keep my hands to my self if me know me caa win.

    me will tell him all kinds of good words fr a far but me not licking no man

  • Real says:

    but seriously mi go seh di girl gi him two box ok ….him haffi gun but ar and deal wid ar so ….him nuh jus lef ar pon di hiway and take her out of his car….NO DADDY CRIS DECIDE FI MEK SHI BARGAIN FI LIFE

  • Belly Bang says:

    A woman can be just as violent as a man. Agreed. But a man who uses an instance of provocation and retaliates in a manner that is extreme & out o proportion to that provocation is not justified. And it applies to men as well as women.

    BUT factually, women more than men are the ones who are on the receiving end of the abuse and this has been the case historically. & why is that so? because they are provoking, they dont answer quickly, they dont cook the food as he wanted it to, she went out with friends, she spoke to the mailman????

    We have to come to grips with the reality here.

  • Real says:

    I READ THE INDIAN GIRL THING AND DEM DEH MAN DEH WEH INSERT THE METAL INNA DI WOMAN DEM USED TO FI A BEAT WOMAN AND GET WEH WID IT AND DECIDE FI TEK IT A STEP FURTHER

  • FREEDOM says:

    HAPPY HOLIDAYS MET

    WHEY CHRIS DO NUH RIGHT AND IN NO WAY MI TOLERATE WID HIM…..BUT HONESTLY IT SEEM TO MI AS IF CB NUH ENTITLE TO CHAT TO NUHBADIE INCLUDING RIHANNA. BECAUSE OF DI INCIDENT UNTIL DIS VERY DAY DEM HOLD IT OVER HIM. LOOK PON CHARLIE SHEEN PPL NUH GET UP A DWELL PON HIM ANTICS. LOOK PON ALL BOBBI-KRISTINA, SHE A LIVE OFF A ROYALITY AND DID DI ULTIMATE..LINDSAY GOES ON DESE WILD RIDES AND JUDGES GIVE HAR PAT ON DI BACK,CAAH SHI NEVA DO NUHTING WRONG..DEM YOUNG YEA, DID HE HAVE DI RIGHT TO HIT HER? NOOO. BUT IF RIRI CAN FORGIVE HIM AND ALLOW HAR HEART FI STILL PONDER FI HIM IT IS HER CHOICE. IT’S HER GROWING STAGE. WE CAN’T CHOOSE FI HAR WI NUH SURE HOW HIM TREAT HAR HANDS ON CAAH WI NUH DEHDEH WI ONLY READ BOUT DEM. HIM GET BACK HIM FAIR SHARE.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Chris Brown never crucify Jesus but ah him ah hold di poster child fi domestic violence involving young people cause him ah ‘celebrity and public figure’.

    And violence & him ah fren and company. Maybe there are no reports that him beat another woman but he is well known fi a short fuse and a quick fist.

  • Anonymous says:

    I think its her life and her choice. Point is alot of people are secretly getting abused and sit and say nothing until they end up dead. They both admit it was wrong, he paid the price and seems to be trying to make amends. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone, to each his own. #just saying They were both young people make mistakes (not that it is right) but give someone a chance to live and correct their mistake how come nobody bashing Mike tyson and his wife was like his punching bag (as she claims).

  • Belly Bang says:

    Everyone makes their own choices in life, including Whitney & others.

    BUT, the sad thing is that domestic violence aint always an isolated one off incident.

    BUT, get me straight, mi nuh want nothing happen to the girl cause all women deserve to find happiness and live along and healthy life

  • Belly Bang says:

    Real, yuh see wah mi ah seh bout indifference in society and wat it can lad to!!!!!!

  • DivaNista says:

    Does one incident constitute a life time of tagged domestic abuser? He did it once and she knows why she forgive him. Let them live (and learn) people

  • Real says:

    YES …..IT GET A WAY PON DEM …INNA INDIA DI MAN DEM TREAT DI OMAN DEM LIKE NOBODY…BUT THIS GET INTERNATIONAL ATTENTION DEM A RUN EEN PON IT ..BUT DI SOCIETY ACCEPT IT …DEM SE A PART OF LIFE

  • realthing says:

    Who are we to judge? i personally dont tolerate domestic violence, but to others thats trivial. Some ppl cant forgive a man for cheating, i did and we working on we relationship. I am far from perfect and so are we all, too many times we sit on the outside and judge, n we do it because its easy to sit on the sidelines n point fingers. But when our own world comes tumbling down, we dont always handle it in the way the sideliners would want us to. If she is over it and willing to forgive him I dont see why the world should be stuck on it. She must know her worth we cant for her.

    Plus it a annoy me now, lets solve world hungry n not try to solve rhianna man problems cha lol

  • Real says:

    him did slap up ar up a barbados and mash up di window dem inna di vehicle…him an ar inna fight inna hotel room …..u know i guess its a lifestyle who knows maybe it turns her on

  • FREEDOM says:

    POSTER CHILD YES! BUT HIM SHUDDA GET A BEATING OR EVEN A HAND OR 2 BRUK FI KNOW NUFFY DWEET AGAIN……DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS JUST WRONG NO DOUBT ABOUT IT, BUT IF SOMEONE IS SORRY AND WANTS A 2ND CHANCE IN A RELATIONSHIP OR EVEN SOCIETY BEING DI PUBLIC FIGURE HE IS, MI TINK HIM FI GET ENUFF ROPE FI HENG HIMSELF SUH UNTIL DEN……WHAPPEN 20 YRS FROM NOW DEM AGUH KEEP TALKING ABOUT DI INCIDENT. WAT IF DEM STILL DEH , SOCIETY AGUH TEK DI INCIDENT DAY MEK ANNIVERSARY.

  • ... says:

    MI a go get nuff dislike fi dis but to bad. The Grammy party incident strikes me as Rihanna doing up the man in the car & he snapped. Jah know mi nuh condone no part of it but to me I feel she was a victim of abuse in the past & she became the abuser in the sense that she don’t strike me as poor and defenseless. I almost feel as though she provoking. Di man did leave her be an she come back & a try screechy into him life again. If he was an abuser why hasn’t there been any other report or whisper of him doing it to someone else? I really think she is an aggressor & the violence is a part of their relationship. I think Chris brown knows that about here so he rolls with it like an ass cause it can mash up his career. Rihanna to me need help, she need an evaluation cause she talk like a strong woman but she don’t walk the walk…& thats fine but not when it affects other ppl. Having been in an abusive relationship yes it is hard especially when you know the other person has more good ways except the anger part but self preservation is key & this chick have esteem issues & has become the aggressor. When she’s around Chris Brown get up to all kind of antics, when him wid the likkle chini girl him calm an simmer…My opinion dislike away

  • ... says:

    Also please remember before this incident Chris Brown has been seen with bruises and so forth on him so again while I believe it blew out of proportion because of her handlers who must have sworn she wouldn’t have been going back with him is only him an she know the truth. If her family & friends quick fi tek Chris Brown back into the fold come on dem know how she stay.

  • NUFFY says:

    OMG I’M SO SICK OF THIS SHIT!! GET OFF THE CHICKS ASS ALREADY!!!!! WHY EVERYONE SO DAMN CONCERNED??? IF SHE WAG F CB LET HER, A FI HER PUSSY!!!!! WHATS HAPPENS AFTER A FI HER BUSINESS!!! SHE NUH ASK NUH BODY PERMISSION BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T NEED ANYONES PERMISSION!! ……………….FROM CHRIS MADE THE ANNOUNCEMENT HIM N KAE BROKE UP, NOT ONE PIC MI SEE HIM POST WITH THEM, YET HE POSTS PHOTOS OF HIM N RI, WE ARE THE ONES WEH SPECULATE SEH HIM INNA LOVE TRIANGLE! KAE SEEMS TO WANT TO STAY RELEVANT SO SHE SENDS MIX SIGNALS, JUST LIKE THE OTHER DAY SHE POST HERSELF IN BAGGY AND A T-SHIRT SIMILAR TO WHAT CHRIS WAS WARING ON HER TWITTER, ONLY TO DELETE IT SECONDS LATER WHEN CHRIS N RI PHOTOS SURFACED OF THEM AT THE GAME TOGETHER…KAE MAWGAH, CHRIS CLOTHES CANT FIT SO SNUGGLY PON HER AND BIG PON CHRIS…..PEOPLE NEED FI MEK DI PEOPLE DEM RASS LIVE!! MUCH MORE SHIT DEY DEY FI HAVE OPINION BOUT!! GWAAN F HIM IF U WANT YA RI!

  • Belly Bang says:

    Yuh need fi tell her daty cause if she did want it to be her own private ting she wouldnt guh pon Oprah

  • ... says:

    Ms. Chin is not relevant on this post Nuffy dear. Read the article & not the last comment…smh you seem to take it more personal than all of us here. We are speaking about domestic violence not the intricacies of people relationship. There is a bigger picture than them likkle pickney mixup.

  • ... says:

    Nuff a unoo girl out there don’t respect man. Tha is the problem, we have a generation of sexes that don’t respect each other & there is no living example so this going to become acceptable. Is not that the person don’t love the next one but if they don’t know how to show love & respect then how it gonna work? Mi si when di likkle girl dem a do up di bway dem & viceversa. Its not about being submissive but about respect & allowing a man to be a man & for men to respect & allow a woman to be a woman & celebrate each other.

  • Observer says:

    Let’s see now there are countless of men who get battered and no one debates it.

    1 Elin beat Tiger wid di golf club.

    2 Grace beat Robert DeNiro.

    3 Words from whitney: “Contrary to belief, I do the hitting, he doesn’t. He has never put his hands on me. We are crazy for one another. I mean crazy in love, love, love, love, love. When we’re fighting, it’s like that’s love for us. We’re fighting for our love.”

    4 Chicago Bulls Ron Artest get beatings from Kimsha

    5 Brenda beat Lionel Richie infact she was arrested

    6 1974 Al Green ooman beat out em claat

    7 ONE OF THE WORST YET…..Phil Hartman murdered by Brynn Hartman while he slept

    I’m clearly illustrating that while we chastise CB for hitting RiHanna she will continue to make herself “happy” until they are ready to call it quits! #PHUCKPUBLICOPINION. OOMAN FI KIP DEM HAN 2 DEMSELF LIKEWISE MAN…..no double standards…WRONG IS WRONG!!! Man a smaddy pitney to juss like ooman a smaddy pitney let’s raise men to not hit woman and woman to not hit men!!! It’s the worst insult fi touch a man respect goes where respects comes.

  • Observer says:

    dottyyyyyyyyyyy :thumbup

  • treopound says:

    These two deserve each other and I am happy for them. Everybody that keeps going in on how she should have never went back to him because of the publicly known battery should stop gwan like perfection is built in any one soul. It has been said that she has hit the bwoy many times in anger wayyy before him and her went through this last one. Though he is wrong for hitting her, does it then make right for her to be have been doing it on a constant basis before. Im a woman and I want to know why hasnt somebody come with a article asking these men (chris brown and chad ochocinco) why they have returned to be in relations with these woman that have tarnished there career by taking there private matters to the media.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Mi want know inna which society man ah get batter is an issue or is so prevalent.

    Wi grow our boys (misguidedly) to be men, to man up & nuh tek nuh chat, to not mek any woman ‘rule dem’ and no to panty government. Wi grow dem fi be strong & emotionless, cause big man nuh fi cry or seh ‘i love you’ publicly to dem woman, and man fi have one bagga woman & all these things. And anything that is percieved as a threat to those ‘teachings’ is met with violence and ridicule.

    People, its a male dominated society and thats why incidence of rape and domestic violence will never be taken seriously. On the issue of rape, the very society make men who are abused physically and sexually by other men to be sissies, weaklings and homosexuals, cause hear wat, dem tings deh nuh happen to real man.

    Abuse and violence is never acceptable, nuh matter who does it, but the fact is, just like mental illness, we cant just ah sidestep & ah minimise, we need to take this shit seriously. Rihanna & millions of women ah beat dem own drum and rightfully so. But on the other hand, we cant tell dem wat to do, only advise and see wat happens from there.

    When it comes to this issue wi cant just ah live life fi wiself & seh ah nuh fi wi business and leave people mek dem want to do & then tun round and act like Christians in relation to other issues.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Wi mustnt try to rule people lives, but wi must remember there are some issues out there that we cant just ignore and wi can advise and look out for the best interest of others. This applies to Rihanna as also Miss Lena in Maggotty who fah husband mit enuh understand himself also.

    There are many teachings that we look at in a one dimensional manner and nuh look pon how it relates to other aspects of our lives and how wi deal wid people. So,are Rihanna and Miss lena our neighbours or are they strangrs who we should ignore and walk on the other side.

  • NUFFY says:

    DOTTY AND ZERVAH–I WONT EVEN ANSWER UNU…ME IN A VERY GOOD MOOD. HAVE A DECENT DAY.

  • Belly Bang says:

    MARCH 23, 2011:-

    After attempting to mend a tarnished public image for two years, Chris Brown made headlines on Tuesday morning after he stormed off the “Good Morning America” stage, apparently left a smashed window in his dressing room and ripped off his shirt before leaving the building.

    “For a celebrity of his stature, no [this does not surprise me],” said Dr. Harold Koenig, professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Duke University Medical Center. “With fame and fortune comes a sense of invulnerability, which can seriously interfere with the motivation necessary to change an entrenched behavior pattern.”

    While Brown reportedly attended anger management classes and worked to publicly to clean up his image, Koenig said that it is not uncommon for any person who has gone through an anger management program to fall back into patterns of angry and abusive behavior. A person must stay highly motivated and pay considerable attention to their responses until a new behavior pattern is established.

    [This] could take months or even years,” said Koenig. “That person may remain, for life, susceptible to losing control, and like an alcoholic, needs to be constantly vigilant for this.”

  • Observer says:

    “Why do we protest domestic violence against women and not even know about violence against men?” men’s advocate Warren Farrell wrote in a USA Today column (6/29/94), arguing that women’s violence is as bad as men’s– if not worse.

    Husbands are battered as much as wives in the U.S.? John Leo, syndicated U.S. News & World Report columnist, is sure of it.

    THIS IS AN ISSUE FOR BOTH SIDES…..I WILL NEVER EVER SINGLE OUT WOMEN BEING ABUSED BECAUSE MEN ARE ABUSED JUST AS EQUALLY BUT DUE TO A MACHO EGO-IMAGE IT IS LESS REPORTED! Dem fi respekk one anedda simple

  • Observer says:

    Nuffy nuh badda wid me caw mi nuh c yuh dotty address you and mi like one a dotty comment a big har up suh tek ur stress 2 di docta an lowe mi oooooo

  • ... says:

    Belly, in America it is a woman & child country. The issue is that there is no respect among the sexes period. I refuse to put it all on the men because women raise men mostly here. While yes men are the main abusers in other countries, but here with the media glorifying whoring & gold digging & parents not taking the responsibility to nurture the children here it is a toss up. RESPECT IS THE KEY & if the women don’t love & respect themselves then how it ago go? If the men don’t know how to love themselves & respect women then how it ago go. They don’t know cause the parents didn’t know. ESPECIALLY BLACK MAN this country designed to make black man the aggressor no matter what. Hear up a top woman a beat off man fi how long in front of kids I presume what type of example is that?

  • ... says:

    Thanks for your time nuffy pull up the door on your way out please :salahkamar

  • Met says:

    :iloveindonesia peace peace ooo

  • Belly Bang says:

    “A verbal argument ensued and Brown pulled the vehicle over on an unknown street, reached over Robyn F. with his right hand, opened the car door and attempted to force her out. Brown was unable to force Robyn F. out of the vehicle because she was wearing a seat belt. When he could not force her to exit, he took his right hand and shoved her head against he passenger window of the vehicle, causing an approximate one-inch raised circular contusion.”

    “Brown resumed punching Robyn F. and she interlocked her fingers behind her head and brought her elbows forward to protect her face. She then bent over at the waist, placing her elbows and face near her lap in [an] attempt to protect her face and head from the barrage of punches being levied upon her by Brown.”

  • ... says:

    Let it be known that in none of my comments I say who should leave or stay cause that is not my call & further more I not sexing none of them so I care zero. Mi a talk bout the toxic behaviour.

  • ... says:

    Miss Met a now u surface?

  • Observer says:

    Why abused partners stay in abusive relationship?

    DENIAL, SELF WORTH, SHAME, THE KIDS, INERTIA, FEAR, GUILT, RELIGIOUS TIES, AND SO MUCH MORE………….not to mention RELUCTANT TO GIVE UP THE GOOD<<<<<<which is what some of us say to be riri's reason but do we ever stop to think that THEY WILL BOTH STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP UNTIL WE TURN BLUE IN THE FACE AND UNTIL THEY ARE READY TO DO SO. Rihanna hit CB, CB hit Rihanna truss mi dem noe weh dem a duh a dem belong wid eachodda suh di pity story wi a fine fi riri dem juss a laaf afta wi caw dem noe di full scoop.

  • ... says:

    Belly, there are 3 sides his hers & the truth… Rememebr as well she has handlers so we will never know.

  • Met says:

    a reading :nerd

  • ... says:

    yes Obs. Me jus a talk from using them as an example of what not to do & how important it is to raise our kids with respect & teach them to respect & love others

  • Observer says:

    Belly……….and so says Rihanna and that’s her side. Remember now, that was her story then and she has watered down the facts surrounding that night depending on how she feels towards her “abuser” CB at any given point.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Anyway, di man dem have dem advocate & mi nuh agree wid abuse of them. BUT hear wat, di woman dem need fi dem strong backative too in this male dominated environment before more & more incidents like wat tek place inna India gwaan.

    MALE ADVOCATES <<<<<<<<<>>>>>> ME & OTHERS TO DI RIGHT >>>>>>>>>>> :bola

    PEACE LOVERS & TREE HUGGERS ^^^^^^^^^^^^ STAND FORM IN THE MIDDLE :iloveindonesia

  • Belly Bang says:

    Observer, those were not allegations, those were FACTS cause he pleaded GUILTY to them, mi tired fi say that there was no trial :nerd

  • Observer says:

    I just love Met. You stay so low key at times as if you’re not here but you’re well present in times of war. We’re not actually in a war we’re having a debate amongst ourselves a very respectful one might I add. Nuffy is having a bad day, we’re ok at the end of the day…..we love and respect eachother BUT we’re humans :) we agree to disagree!

  • Belly Bang says:

    AH NUH NUH MEK UP BUSINESS…………………DI MAN GUH COURT & BEING FACED WID THE ALLEGATIONS PLEADED GUILTY & ACCEPTED THE ALLEGATIONS AS BEING FACTS.

    HIM NEVER SAY, ‘MI LICK HIM BUT MI NEVER DWEET LIKE HOW SHE SAY” :siul

    MAN MADE AN UNEQUIVOCAL PLEA :nerd

  • ... says:

    dwl yuh tink yuh easy Belly. MI is my own advocate. Being in an abusive relationship before the root of it is lack of self love period. It is not a matter of backative it is love thyself. Once that happens nobody can tek no kinda step with you because you will detect the signs. YOu will know the meaning of true love because you have love of self. So if I am an advocate I am pushing self love. Self love will not allow you to hit, be hit, tek disrespect or be disrespectful.

  • Met says:

    :thumbup

  • Observer says:

    Belly in a court proceding a lawyer tells his clients what to say and do for the benefit of oneself not for the benefit of the truth. THE TRUTH YOU WILL NEVER HEAR!

  • Belly Bang says:

    Nuffy alrite :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak

    Mi deh yah hunker down inna fi mi fort ah bun fire :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak & OBSERVER & DI RST AH MISGUIDED TALIBANS DEM INNA DI FOREST AH LAUNCH REPEATED ATTACKS :ngakak :ngakak

  • Met says:

    Mi haffi raise di flag oo cause nuffy head look likkle heatish but mi did haffi laugh she seh have a decent day :hammer

  • ... says:

    Belly lol seroiusly he plead guilty because he wanted to get on with him life. Remember Rihannas camp deeeeep in the industry. All I saw were 2 kids get into it & their handlers influenced this whole thing. Now them reach a stage where dem a do wah dem want an nah tek no talk cause dem a dominate the market

  • Met says:

    Mi nuh business wid Chris and Rihanna ting but one thing I will say..Rihanna nah tek no lick jus suh :travel

  • Belly Bang says:

    Chris Brown never guh ah nuh Court guh plea Guilty to wat him never want plead guilty to. Ah him ah di man who ah pay di piper nuh di other way round.

    Nuh try paint him as nuh man who just ah do someting against him will (next ting yuh hear seh ah suh Dudus do)

  • Real says:

    mek wi talk di truth …weda shi gi him two box or what have u …him put it on pon ar …him neva have nuh mercy …him beat di sexiness out a ar….so right now wi nah talk bout violence aganinst man cause obviously him over power and fux ar up …..so hear wah ..me feel seh ar tomach trang because everytime mi memba how him beat mi and how him humiliate mi and nuh care …mi woulda haffi sen him a fux u card …..and dat frigga get off widout a scrape because dat weh dem gi him was nothing…man teef snickers a farin and get life….that was attempted murder caw shi not even di fully together when dem get ar ……

  • ... says:

    Thank you met

  • ... says:

    Belly music industry up here kinda come in like modern day slavery, The label is who determines everything not the artist

  • Observer says:

    one lickle warrior she is e yer met riri noe weh she a duh dats y cb luv har dem mek a perfekk pair

  • Belly Bang says:

    Well, mi agree pon one ting. MEK DEM MOVE ON WID DEM LIFE!!!!

    BUT MI STILL AH BUN A FIRE PON ANY MAN WHO BEAT WOMAN TO DEM DEGREE DEH. YUH FEEL MI CAN TEK UP MAN WHO DO WOMAN SUH & TRY JUSTIFY BY SAYING “she ah she & me ah me”.

    MI COULDNT SLEEP GOOD INNA MI BED AH NITE WID HIM BESIDE MI :cool

  • Met says:

    In America it doesnt count if di woman hit u or hits you back because dem expect that if a woman hits a man he should take it and not respond..Yes there are a lot of women who are victims of domestic violence but the system is fxxked up

  • ... says:

    Two broken children. We can sit an make speculations all day long the bottom line is Respect & self love. If either of them had it we wouldn’t be here debating

  • Observer says:

    mi neva noe seh wen ppl upset dem a gi soft blow em put it on yes n so did she riri neva sitdung inna dat cyar an tek no lik dats y mi naw debate dem relationship caw dem NOT LEFFING but a juss di beatin pawt mi a chat bout she put it on to but a man lik connect mor dan ooman

  • Belly Bang says:

    MI know some man who get lick yes, mi nuh say dat nuh happen. & dem fraid fi guh ah station. Mi know of men who are abused and dem hold it down, hold dem corners, tek to drinking and stay out late etc etc. Mi actually suspect dat ah gwaan wid a close relative.

    SUH MI CAN SEE THE PERSPECTIVE OF DI TALIBAN DEM!!!!

  • Observer says:

    Belly you must not have been in court lately. Mek mi c if mi caw seh mi piece widout blow mi cova ok……

    mi gaw a court judge a gwaan like a murda mi commit (traffic violation enuh) lawya cum a court 2 time n seh dis (remaining incognito) mi a guh juss seh di lawya seh mi fi plead guilty caw since a mi fuss time mi wi gud raas now mi plead weh lawya seh an get 5 dayz community service inna mi raas mi bawl out di wol 5 dayz fram sweeping i-95 South rite 2 Wellington Medical Center mi end up bare stressssssss suh di court system n lawyaz is a set a fukery n di system fuk rite up n dung

  • Real says:

    hopefully him change and it nuh happen again :kimpoi

  • Belly Bang says:

    OBSERVER :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak

    SUH DEM DID PUT YUH INNA APRON & GLOVES & GI YUH ONE HAT????

  • ... says:

    People are allowed to have a difference of opinion. Observer you nor me justifying anything CB did, but it takes two & we can only go off of what we see in the public. Rihanna portrays herself as a force to be reckoned with so we see it is 3 sides and at the end of the day it is their relationship. I know from experience i left I went back thinking “no man him just stressed” but I came to realize that I never love myself & sometimes I was the aggressor. So I left because I didn’t like misself & I wanted normalcy. No one has the right to abuse anyone period. But I hate that people put all the responsibility on the man, women need to recognize their power & make it a level playing field. RESPECT RESPECT RESPECT & LOVE OF SELF cyaan go wrong. Again if I keep burdening myself mentally by saying “its a male dominated society” I automatically become defensive & it shouldn’t be that way. I cannot speak on any other country than America Belly & I cannot speak on anything other than my experience & my opinion. I get what you saying but it sounds a bit antiquated

  • ... says:

    same rass Obs. Lawyer dem nuh business wid client unless it lucrative to win di case.

  • Observer says:

    mi naw wata dung nutten OOMAN GET BEATIN MAN GET BEATIN dem fi kip dem han 2 demself an a desso mi ting deh mi naw show nuh curry fava r remorse fi not one ova di odda a relationship deserve respect both ways an if a ooman caw tek up han lik man she fi saddle up fi tek it bak brite n rude WOMEN MUST RESPECT THEIR MEN mi ere all oomana tel man cum suk dem no rostahhhhhh not ow mi grow granny put dung granpa food til em cum ome n all wake up outta warm bed n reheat it if em cum late dem ya nowadayz ooman lef di food inna di pot n seh guh warm it up yuh lucki (sum not even cook) mummy seh all wen yuh upset DON’T HOLD A MAN’S SEX AND FOOD FROM HIM! War nuh pay both ways an sum ooman lack self love suh dem luk fah inna di rong places

  • Belly Bang says:

    Mi have on neighbour who did bad lakka bat. She big, loud & trapping & di husband small body and quit and bun him little weed more times. Anyting ah gwaan inna di area ah she ah di big bad bull & duppy conqueror and him ah back up. One day mi hear one piece ah tumbleration inna dm house and ah fi him voice dat mi hear and it sound like one struggling did ah gwaan. From dat she quiet as a lamb & him deh bout same way. Fuss time ah pure loud music ah bat & TV tun up, now, not ah ting like dat, if ah nuh fi di car dem park out front mi wouldnt know nuhbady home.

  • Observer says:

    Yes Dotty quite so and it would make me so happy if the readers understood that. I’m taking no sides or justifying abuse in any way shape or form. I’m saying they’re both wrong and they both lack respect for eacthother…mi also a seh dem naw lef n mi naw lose no sleep over riri n har man oooooo :)

    Mi sehhhhhhhhhhhh belly dem gi mi one orange apron n mi wear a nice hat dem tek it weh an seh onli hard hats allowed mi nearly ded di embarrassment caz mi bare stress :sorry a bawl dai n nite

  • Belly Bang says:

    DOTTY, there are just some tings dat mi like to stick to, including mi strong strong views on domestic violence (especially) against women as also how we as a society view mental illness. Ah just me :siul dat

  • Belly Bang says:

    Suh Observer, yuh nuh guh talk to di lawya man & show him wat him bring yuh to??????

  • ... says:

    Obs mi a ask it nuh possible fi clear dat from yuh record? mi nuh know. Belly you a di legal eagle in here is it possible?

  • Observer says:

    Dotty I can’t tell my story because it could breech my confidentiality but mi use to tel di man sum tings neva eva will i dweet agen in dis relationship yuh live n learn ooman fi respekk dem man n man fi respekk ooman a wen wi lose site a dat a desso evrythin capsize n where deres no respekk deres no luv n anythin liable fi gwaan

  • ... says:

    Yea Belly & I accept that absolutely, thats why I even engage in a convo with you, you stick to your guns. But mi a seh the 2 of them wrong. Period not jus di man she wrong too. But its not just violence against women its violence period people need fi start respect each other & more importantly respect themselves enough not to accept or entertain certain behaviours from people. Domestic Violence/Violence & Mental Illness goes hand in hand so mi not against you & your views as we share the same

  • Observer says:

    belly dat lickle fxxka waz a public defenda em neva a get pay mi tink mi did prestige wen em seh em name Cochran (not johnny) :ngakak mi sehhhhhhhhh man juss el mi seh “Ms ‘so an so’ take it easy, life is hard sometimes and not to mention unfair” mi wah tel di pxxsy seh fi guh dis n dat em mumma but den dem gud fi guh lak mi up agen fi impropa speech n disorderly conduct mi sehhhhhhhhh :travel mi duss leave em place caw not evn docta bill em neva ask fah tenk gawd fi medicaid :nohope:

  • ... says:

    nuff said Obs. Mi hope yuh can clear dat ting off yuh record tho

  • Observer says:

    As far as clearing goes. It was espunged but I just get a fear whenever officials ask “have u ever been arrested?” it almost always goes against you no matter what type of individual you turn out to be. Believe me, I’m a beautiful person inside and out but as far as the law is concerned….i’m a criminal who was arrested smh

  • ... says:

    yea Obs it rough cause the way them set it up now employers have access to everything dung to yuh facebook dem a check before dem interview yuh fi work. Shitstem design da way deh still

  • Belly Bang says:

    ….dotty, ah Jamaica mi deh, ah cant talk to di US laws. & MI AH NUH LEGAL EAGLE, MI JUST HAVE LITTLE LEGAL ENTANGLEMENTS & MIX UP & RUN GUH AH LAWYA OFFICE NOW & THEN :tkp

    OBSERVER, sometimes yuh haffi grit yuh teet and deal wit the punches as they come :siul

  • Belly Bang says:

    When mi see dat ‘hve you ever been arrested” pon forms mi ah fillout mi find miself ah grumble seh anybody can get arrested but i have NEVERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR been convicted!!

    Sometimes, depending on where mi go fi fill out di form, mi nuh badda write nothing inna di arrested part cause dat ah nuh nothing fi dem fi know bout cause mi nuh have nuh record at the end of the day

  • ... says:

    all dem ting deh, y is it relevant whether you got arrested? the question should be have you ever been convicted of a crime..

  • Observer says:

    a di chute belly but fram yuh tek community service yuh plead guilty desso it sad but mi haffi get it offa mi record caw bwoy merca nuh ez an dem naw play

    dotty a suh di system design fi kip wi dung but mi is a fighter n dis naw wol mi bak chuss mi

  • ... says:

    :2thumbup

  • toni ann says:

    afternoon met and metters..

    all i can say is, mi nah beat up my gums like rihanna face, shi look like nuh damn “victim” to unuh? unuh nuh si rihanna is a damn bitch? tan deh deh belieave shi a “victim.” mi nuh sorry fi gal/man weh nuh sarry fi demself…. an if unuh tan deh and tink she didnt do anything for it to happend then unuh lost…..

    rihanna behavia an actions on twitta, an overall dont scream “defenseless,” “abused,” or a “battered” woman….. what we need to focus on is the countless of women and men that get abused an have no resources to help them and feel they have no choice but to accept it.

  • Jules says:

    Fi har life fi har choices. Sometimes people have to do whatever the hell dem want to do, no matter how crazy it look on the outside to everybody else dem just have to do dem.

    Mi notice now seh shi trail backa him nowadays and seem to be very toned down roun him. Seems as though she meck some self adjustments when she is in his presence. Him obviously beat har into submission.

  • W says:

    WORRYING ABOU RIRIÉCHRIS UNNU L.UDDY DEM MUSIC A SELL DEM HAPPY N INLOVE SOME OF YOU FLAPPING UR GUM GET REAL MAN LICKS UP AND DOWN THE STAIRS SHE HIT HIM HE HIT BACK NOW YTHEY ARE TOGETHER GET OVER IT

  • splashNdash says:

    This also has to do wid race – plenty YT celebrities are serial abusers & I don’t see media all up inna dem business. Ozzy Osbourne nearly choke Sharon & kill her – wey di protest & articles?there’s a YT footballer who have a trail of rape & assault allegation gainst him & him still celebrated, still a road.

    Can’t condone what CB did but di people dem need Fi live dem life. Lawks

  • Observer says:

    weh YT mean?

  • toni ann says:

    @W
    you do know money nuh mek yuh happy right??? if so the rich wouldnt commit suicide or overdose, breakup, do surgery etc etc

    @plashdash
    lets not stray, cause if we a talk bout “apple” smaddi always a try change di problem at hand with “oranges.” not because others are doing it doesnt make it right. sheesh!

  • ... says:

    white observer…white I presume. People don’t talk about it because they keep them business to themselves… it doesn’t come out until one of them allows it to

  • Cc says:

    Observa mi luv yuh cuz you a split justice…abuse wrong on both side ppl fi respect each odda…mi luv riri but she is no push over dat deh gyal deh bad Lakka yaaz lol

  • splashNdash says:

    YT=white.

    And I am addressing the article and general hatred there is for Brown in some circles. This article, the journalist who was stalking his twitter are all part of a bigger prob in US media. When dem write off some persons, boy, better dem corner dark

  • ... says:

    the US media too free & they take no responsibility for anything they do.

  • Belly Bang says:

    ANSWER THIS (EVEN TO UNNO SELVES):-

    1. How much ah unno in yah (as woman) ever get lick by unno man & unno still deh wid him???

    2. If unno did get lick, unno report it to the police & follow up wid the case???

    3. Those who get lick, unno blame unno selves???

    4. Has the lick ever been repeated???

    5. Unno man in yah, unno ever beat unno woman & why???

    Please and thanks and waiting.

  • Met says:

    dotty look how dem did tell lie seh di indian boy did record di white bwaay a have sex n upload it pan youtube das y him commit suicide…all now dem still a seh dat

  • Belly Bang says:

    Rite yah now, this ting isnt about CB, as fi him story is just one of the hundreds of thousands and mi ah look pon di bigger picture.

    Maybe if some ah wi did ah ‘stalk’ more woman beater, maybe, just maybe, dem wouldnt feel suh strong when dem ah pound di woman behind closed doors knowing dat their deeds are being exposed.

    Nuff time in yah wi hear bout which man ah cheater, which man suck this, which man ah dat, which man mean, all sort ah tings bout man…..but rarely, as if is taboo, wi hear bout who ah beat gal like slave. is like dat subject outta bounds.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Met., black, white, yellow, blue, pink, mi ah deal wid this issue as it relates to abuse amongst black people. Pick choose & refuse but it is real & wi fi tap treat it like it nuh happen, especially to women.

    When wi ah talk bout abuse of women is like people skin start get itchy and dem nuh want hear bout dat. mention peophilia and black people and people start shuffle & ah hem & haw

    As mi seh, CB lucky but this issue nuh isolated to him one.

  • Met says:

    belly mi did a endorse what dotty seh about the media, that sometimes u never really hear the true story…it is reported and kept that way no matter what

  • ... says:

    a dem a di real terrorist Met chuss mi. and remember we living in a time where is technology & media raising children cause mommy & daddy haffi work. Dem love incite fear in di masses…kinda remind me of hitler & him propaganda station dem… check it

  • Observer says:

    You know everyday I prove one is never too big to learn because I never knew “yt” meant that but thanks guys :) dotty :kiss

    @splash dash mi naw tek it desso dis is not a blk n wht issue dis is a man n ooman issue a suh mi seeit

  • Belly Bang says:

    MEK MI HOLD MI DISLIKE PON DAH ONE YAH :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak CAUSE MI KNOW SOME AH UNNO AH GUH KETCH FITS!!!

    UNNO WANT KNOW WAT WI AS BLACK PEOPLE NUH WANT HEAR BOUT ALSO …..”I love the children”…… MEMBA WHICH CELEBRITY DID AH LOVE CHILDREN & HAVE DEM SOEM VERY SUSPICIOUS WAYS BOUT HIM & SOME SEH “LEAVE DI MAN” WHEN PEOPLE DID AH SEH “AH WAH DIS MAN” :nerd

    YES, WI NUH LIKE TALK BOUT IT AS WELL AS DOMESTIC ABUSE AGAINST WOMEN, BUT IT IS IN THE BEVERLY HILLS AND IT IS IN AUGUST TOWN :siul

  • ... says:

    Belly it weird but again yea society now is all about the material, ppl fraid cause time rough & dem goodly a seh as Observer said earlier

    Observer says:
    December 29, 2012 at 12:55 pm
    Why abused partners stay in abusive relationship?

    DENIAL, SELF WORTH, SHAME, THE KIDS, INERTIA, FEAR, GUILT, RELIGIOUS TIES, AND SO MUCH MORE………….not to mention RELUCTANT TO GIVE UP THE GOOD<<<<<<which is what some of us say to be riri's reason but do we ever stop to think that THEY WILL BOTH STAY IN THE RELATIONSHIP UNTIL WE TURN BLUE IN THE FACE AND UNTIL THEY ARE READY TO DO SO. Rihanna hit CB, CB hit Rihanna truss mi dem noe weh dem a duh a dem belong wid eachodda suh di pity story wi a fine fi riri dem juss a laaf afta wi caw dem noe di full scoop.

    Also remember not everybody is as strong & denial have alot to do with it. It is a problem yes but it goes back to Self Love & respect. As I have been saying. Women need to know that they are the strongest beings on this planet, we bring pickney come ya, wuk wid wi belly battam a drop out but wi nuh stop cause wi have pickney fi feed and I could go on. In order to correct this you haffi cut it at the root

  • Observer says:

    aye sahhh dem single out CB like em a di worst man pon 2 foot wile charlie sheen act like sumthin pon 4 foot caw onli animal duh weh em duh an still remain an upstandin memba of society but no young young bwoy like CB dem wudnt mine if em career dun now

  • Observer says:

    i doah haffi gi cb nuh chance caw a nuh mi n em a sleep but mi dun talk…fair is fair….sumtime mi haffi tek great care in writin mi thoughts pon jmg caw sum a unnuh luv misconstrue ppl argument cho

    belly mj seh I’m standing with the man in the mirror…..the world need change

  • ... says:

    Abuse takes place everywhere, certain cases you don’t hear about because as mi seh dem keep it to dem self is it right absolutely not but thats what they do. I had a friend in prep school her father was 70 odd an used to molest her sister, the sister run weh an as she buss bress a fi her time. Her father married her mother when she was 15 and pregnant this is happening in Jacks Hill & this isn’t the only case I know of bothe in JA & in Foreign. SO Belly mek I ask what would you do if you had the power to stop this madness what would you do or suggest? (mi not being an ass I truly want to know what you woulda do?

  • Belly Bang says:

    Met, I have seen with my two eyes and heard with these ears from the horse’s mouth, doz4ens of tales of domestic violence, and here are 1 or 2:-

    1. mi see man throw acid pon woman & bun dem up and when di man arrested & charged & come Court yuh hear seh it is not the 1st time….hear woman, please drop charges cause mi love him & him ah di bread winner

    2. Mi see man & him babymother hav worries & him mek sure tie her up & beat her & insert ketchup bottle in her vagina & man get lock up and when it come Court ………..please drop the charges

    & di list goes on.

    THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS THAT of those few cases where the police make an arrest, the vast majority of those few are never followed through by the women cause dem have all sort ah excuse bout love, dependency, make up, the children etc etc.

    Unno feel seh ah just ah one lick woman out deh ah get??? Unno ever see ah woman get beat wid a machette till she haffi get hospitalised & people tun round & seh “nuh follow through wid it, just talk it over, memba di pickney dem, yuh still have life”.

    AH DESSO MI AH COME OFFA & MI NAW APOLOGISE FI NNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MAN WEH BEAT WOMAN. NONE !!

  • ... says:

    Obs lol if dem waan fi misconstrue dem nuh gwaan man. Met give yuh freedom fi talk so talk. I think them more focused on the CB status than the actual root of what we saying (not you Belly, before you come fi mi dwl)

  • ... says:

    yea Belly but you see now that is something that has to be addressed within the Jamaican court system, If I not mistaken up here if you report an every minute you a drop charge dem charge di woman fi public mischief & it can escalate on the aggressor’s part as well (Met am I far off?) So that right there is a cultural issue & the Jamaican govt need fi step in & put something in place to hinder it a likkle

  • Belly Bang says:

    CB never crucify Jesus suh mi naw guh desso. Him ah nuh di worst or di wickedest but him haev issues. RiRi can fxxk & duck wid him, ah fi her life. BUT, but, let us be careful dat we dont look at ALL CASES OF ABUSE & say “leave it alone, ah fi dem life”.

    “First They Came for the Jews”
    By Pastor Niemoller

    First they came for the Jews and I did not speak out because I was not a Jew.
    Then they came for the Communists and I did not speak out because I was not a Communist.
    Then they came for the trade unionists and I did not speak out because I was not a trade unionist.
    Then they came for me and there was no one left to speak out for me.

  • Observer says:

    Belly wi a fren roun ere suh wi caw hav a chat pon a decent level membah nuffy hav a decent day (lol) lissen to miiii figet bout di dislike dem fi a minute caw ppl hav dem own interpretations…..yuh c all dem beatings deh I’M NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES MINIMIZING THEIR EFFECTS ON A PERSON’S LIFE/INSIGHT OR OUTLOOK but ere weh mi a seh dem ooman deh fram ur own wurds yuh seh di vast majority nuh guh tru wid charges den weh mi fi duh beat my gums??? NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO mi naw dweet if dem respekk demself dem wi get up courage n faith n guh move mountains (duh sumthin bout dem circumstance) it sad but it is true all dis goes right back to weh mi seh SELF LOVE SELF WORTH AND ABOVE ALL RESPECT

  • toni ann says:

    @belly bang
    I never been abused before BUT! my ex that i was with many many many years ago was EXTREMELY JEALOUS an felt that he should be the only friend/family/enemy/boss/parents in my life because i dont need no other. Arguments got really heated till at one point it lead to physical fight, shoving match, next ting mi know mi teck a board and him shove mi ina a glass door an mi foot battom get a likkle slice………… i called the police, he ran, i told them what happend, they told me its best we be apart or else one of us will die n one in jail……… since then i heed(a suh it spell?) and i left him and never look back because that wasnt me or how i wanted my life to be.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Observer, it boils down to the person yes, but we as a society must take a firm & solid stand on the rock of intolerance of domestic violence on all levels……………………………. especially against women

    Unno watch the music video which part the bating ah gwaan & the neigbour dem hunker down inna dem space ah try ignore the f–kery

  • ... says:

    Obs mi nuh tink a we Belly a talk cause none of us agree wid abuse on ANY level. You had one an 2 streggeh weh a tell wi fi lef dem alone an so forth.

  • Observer says:

    Mi deh a ja sitdung pon mi verandah an ere “slap slap” n one piece a cow bawlin wen mi walk guh a di grill mi c a man a beat di ooman wid a machete mi a seh but b4 she try grab it n gi em a chop r at least defen harself oh nooo guess wah she a duh

    OOMAN PULL UP HAR SKIRT OVA HAR HED N SEH CUM SUK MIIIIIII DUTTY BWOY YUH SUK MI PUSSY CUM SUK MI

    :nohope: sas crisssssssssssss no respect she nuh hav both fi harself n fi har man wid evry lik weh connect she buss a dutty wud no man dem wurds deh nuffy lef ooman mout n soun off 2 man dat is not rite n yes em nuh hav no respekk neidda fi a fire lik pon em ooman wedda in r out a di hous but mi show yuh seh RESPECT GAWN 2 DI DAWGSSSSS n not until wi put respect inna relationship dem acts deh naw stop repeat itself

  • ... says:

    Belly look at it from another perspective I understand you firm inna yuh ting but nuh everybody stay so. When neighbor do dem ting deh a because in most cases di ooman go back, or dem nuh waan put dem family inna no worries it boils down to fear. Also it has to do with the culture of the society & the familial culture of the individuals. Women need to learn fi love dem self & we all need to respect each other.

  • toni ann says:

    sometimes yuh cannot help some ppl even dow yuh passionate against yuh cause.

    my inlaw stayed with my cousin fi years getting her ass beat, yuh name it, it happend to har, from: buss head, buss face, broken hand, broken foot, stabbed, chopped, black eye, di only ting shi nuh get a shot an shi tan wid him fi 10 whole years, even dow him bun har and beat har an shi wasnt getting nothing but hood, mi granni/aunty/uncle/cousin/father fi her entire family told her to leave him, an shi nuh care weh wi seh, shi run behind him pee pee cluck cluck an all start fight, argument, lick him an know how him always duh har….. do you know what made her leave???? WE STOP CARING, STOP PARTING FIGHTS OR BEATINGS and leave her mek shi get har assing…. and guess wah?? she lef him because tru out di lass 2 years of di 10 years people pass har an lo har mek shi get har beating.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Tek man or woman outta it, seh neighbour & neighbour & passenger & passenger pon a bus.

    Take any of those situations and one tell di other one host ah warra warra bout dem Mother and generation line …….. wat is the justified response of the other party??

    Mout mek fi chat anyting & everyting & it mek fi mek wi want curl up or heng wiself, but di only ting dat can mek wi curl up or want heng wiself ah wi owna mind.

    Self Respect is key & just as important is SELF CONTROL……………………..

  • ... says:

    Taken from the post before this one from JMG

    I don’t know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, ‘Well, if I’d known better I’d have done better,’ that’s all. So you say to people who you think you may have injured, ‘I’m sorry,’ and then you say to yourself, ‘I’m sorry.’ If we all hold on to the mistake, we can’t see our own glory in the mirror because we have the mistake between our faces and the mirror; we can’t see what we’re capable of being. You can ask forgiveness of others, but in the end the real forgiveness is in one’s own self. I think that young men and women are so caught by the way they see themselves. Now mind you. When a larger society sees them as unattractive, as threats, as too black or too white or too poor or too fat or too thin or too sexual or too asexual, that’s rough. But you can overcome that. The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself. If we don’t have that we never grow, we never learn, and sure as hell we should never teach.”
    ― Maya Angelou

  • Observer says:

    Belly we as a society have taken a solid stand on the intolerance of domestic abuse. I will point your attention to the countless acts of abuse which went on unpunished by the Law years ago. Regulations are being formulated even as we speak to lend stiffer penalties on such perpetrators. On the otherhand, ppl hav free will n if wi tri til wi blue wi caw infringe upon ppl rites fi deh wid “abusers” the law punish CB an RiRi cushion n nurse di blows caw wah??? CAW SHE LACK RESPECT FI HARSELF suh it alwayz cum rite bak 2 mi argument SELF LOVE, SELF WORTH N SELF RESPECT riri noe very well she neva respekk cb neidda caw she put ar han pon di man (it nuh rite eidda way) suh mek she tan ONLY SHE CAN MAKE HER DECISIONS TO BENEFIT HERSELF

  • Met says:

    all mi have fi seh a one ting…people should respect each other…things should not come to blows but……for the men…if a woman tink she bad and lick u..lick out har rass and cut but mek sure u lick har back str8

  • Belly Bang says:

    DOTTY :nerd :nerd

    BELIVE YOU ME AH IT MI JUST GUH LOOK PON & READ THE WORDS DEM & LISTEN TO DI SONG AGAIN!!!!!

  • toni ann says:

    @observer
    everybaddi weh confront rihanna about she and chris brown yuh nuh si how shi cuss dem pon twitta? suh a mi fi pickup miself an guh bawl ova spill milk??

  • Belly Bang says:

    An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.
    Mahatma Gandhi

  • Observer says:

    well well belly chek dis if mi deh pon di bus an a chik a cuss me me a guh cuss har bak yes case in point mi a drive an di car cut mi off mi a trace out bakside wen mi drive up is a man di man buss out a big dutty laaf an seh “cool nuh baby sorry” now mi shameeeeeeeeee suh til mi cut mi yei offa em but clearly mi cudda c seh di man is juss a respectable man

    watch mi guh dung di road n di city bus cut mi off n pull out b4 mi cudda cuss ere mi baby “yea mummy pussy” mi double shame :ngakak mi cudda duh nuh betta but laaf but di moral a mi story a fi show ow di gentleman DILUTED A QUARREL caw yuh caw tel em full a home training respect n manners

  • Met says:

    not over spilt milk over smaddy else spilt [email protected] ann…every single man is capable of abuse all a dem however some will have more self control than other and some will learn the lessons they are taught the first time.

  • Belly Bang says:

    Lawd Hamercy, as mi seh, mi ah talk bout the wider issue of domestic violence.

    RiRi & CB bread butter yah now, ah di bigger picture mi ah look pon

  • Belly Bang says:

    OBSERVER, yuh see why yuh ketch di community service :tkp :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak

  • ... says:

    yea so at the end of the day it is the finding of self love/strength/worth/respect within the individual & only then something can happen. Wi nuh have mind control over others so until individuals learn about self & start love self it is a hamster on a wheel kinda ting. Mi tell my son, if a chick haffi resort to raising her voice without merit listen to your gut, if your gut feel funny tek time draw weh. Get fi learn the individual & understand them if you cyaan manij fi dem story walk away or keep a likkle distance. Never ever mek no man or woman draw yuh out & if you feel like your life is at risk by all means defend it.

  • Met says:

    Domestic abuse goes beyond just pointing at the man and telling him or teaching him not to abuse…it involves everyone …Yes there are many cases where men abuse without being stimulated but we have to make sure that society on a whole knows boundaries that both male and female will not abuse or being abused.

  • Observer says:

    Dotty preach girl preachhhhh “The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself” very well said maya angelou. Until we have grasp this concept the World will remain injured and blind.

    I concur toni ann I doah buznizz wid cb n riri i dont ooooooo i dont chuss mi

  • ... says:

    :ngakak :ngakak Observa come si how yuh frighten lol

  • Met says:

    Belly di whole world haffi go blind fi see cause when dem bline dem will know dem did a see good from jump..I repeat mi a tell mi young man dem if a woman lick u…lick har back..especially here in america dem too disrespectful and waa run up pan di man dem..das y so much batteyman deh bout mek mi :travel

  • toni ann says:

    @met
    while i was working at a hospital a man came in with 2 stab wounds an seh a him woman stab him, him seh everytime him call police seh di gal a beat him, him seh police laff affa him and tell him fi tuffin up… si whe it reach now? stab. nuff man get abuse a lot but they dont report it, an to be honest nuff women love falla backa man an cuss dem, beat dem an truble dem…. not everyone wants to be save.

  • Observer says:

    belly da day deh i waz on mi bess behaviah an di cop cum faas wid mi ded seruss :angel

  • Met says:

    And with that being said………..mi nuh know how some women tek lick from man n go back or end up wid abusers

  • Met says:

    toni ann u know a push she a push him fi him react though..people fi respect each other because if there is respect on both sides abuse whether verbal or physical will not happen

  • ... says:

    it is so funny, mi a raise my kids and my mother used to cuss my father dog rotten (daddy was a rolling stone) in front of us. Disrespectful baaaaaad and funny enough my mother call mi an wi a talk bout children & she said if I had to do it over I would never curse or disrespect another adult in front of any of my kids, She felt like is an injustice & a seed she plant inna wi. It tek mi a while fi respect man sake of dem instances maybe it did tek di years of buss ass fi open mi yeye dem BUT eyes wide open now. We haffi cut it at the root before it can get any betta

  • Met says:

    thank u dotty

  • toni ann says:

    unuh know how much men get abuse on a daily basis but we always hear bout women alone, from i grew up in america i notice women love run up pon man an slapped, kick, spit ina face an if di man rush dem, dem bawl out “911” and “you goin to jail now.”

    right right now mi know somebody weh dem oman thump dem, slapped dem, and when dem a guh lick back or restrain hear di gal “go ahead bitch, hit me an see if you dont go to jail” or “let me go, your hurting me, am gonna tell the police you try to hold me against my will” now tell mi if dat right?

  • Observer says:

    betta joke dan dat yuh wah c di police cum an a ask bout ow cud dis happen wen man call police an den dem tek di man out a di hous talk 2 em n den leave if a ooman dem quik fi han cuff kmt

  • Cc says:

    Mi hav a bredrin weh him woman beat him all di time di lastime shi a whop him up mi guh between dem fi part it an shi a try spit over mi shoulda pon him but som a it ketch me suh mi lef dem a lone shi deal wid suh all di time an not onetime him ever lick har back everybody seh him is a goodman but I si a tickin time bomb.

  • ... says:

    dwl a true Obs world upside down, no balance & it is sad.

  • ... says:

    I find spiting is the heights of disrespect. when dat man reach him last straw now dem tun roun seh him wicked..Met side note yuh nah go do a dirty dozen fi di year? or yuh dun wid di poll dem

  • Met says:

    cc she spit?? omg

  • Observer says:

    cc b careful she nuh seh a u lik har dem lie wen dem angry

  • Cc says:

    Yes metty frigin disgusting iyah

  • Observer says:

    dat act if spitting is the worst form of degrading utter disrespectful an if di man baxx dung har raas yuh ere her spit was used as a weapon and he would have gotten no pardon for defending himself yuh c weh mi a talk bout double standards she stawt bawl n society hush har no rostahhhhhh mi a tel fimme son dem fi nuh tek dem disrespect deh

  • Met says:

    no sah you know mi think that a one a di lowest things a person can do to someone… u shudda lan har a lef right ina har mouth…disgusting

  • Observer says:

    dotty i neva c ur comment @ 6:02 spitting is very disgraceful man very an nasty to

  • Belly Bang says:

    I see and appreciate your points of view. :malu2

    (but mi still ah hold mi ground) :siul

  • Cc says:

    Every time dem a argue shi lick him I tink one day him aguh snap

  • Met says:

    Zervah nuh same whey day this guy whey mi know have him baby mother and after she done stab him she call di police bout a him beat har up..when di police come dem ready fi cuff him ..she nuh have no bruise nor nothing but is a telephone cut him end up wid..when she get locked up she never satisfy she call har family dem fi dem jump him and she is not a good girl eno..she gi him bun none stop but like most domestic violence victims..he leaves and always go right back

  • Belly Bang says:

    brb

  • Met says:

    ok belly bells

  • Met says:

    cc he will so a better him leave

  • Cc says:

    No lef naa land from me met mi Fraida jail mi jus tek weh mi self lmaooooooooooo

  • Observer says:

    I could go on and on and on……..unnuh read di Elizabeth Broderick Story longtime di ooman a beat di man, verbally abuse di new ooman n em pitney dem n no police nuh wol she until inna di laas off she bruk inna di man hous an mash up di gift dem unda di chrismuss tree b4 she get a lok up n seeit deh she neva stop til she kill di man n di new wife :( evry lif she lif har han di man blok it yea if a me n mi a man mi a gi har a raas lik justified by har actions

  • ... says:

    Yuh see all dem tings deh Met, mi nuh know…*knock on wood* none of mi pickney dem nuh get caught up inna dem ting deh but as peaceful as I am I wish a bitch would fk wid my son so, she frighten afta she done get it from him an she goodly waan tan inna di cell weh dem put har. My tempa nuh normal an when mi done wid she a him nex mi a go fa fi knock some sense inna him.

  • Observer says:

    Belly :kiss

    Met em mad man em need a ooman fi sidung n talk 2 em serussly caw di govt naw guh gi em di elp weh em need if em nuh wake up n brush off emself dem wi quicka fund counseling fi she life is so unfair smh

  • Cc says:

    Soon as my woman start di arguing mi head fi di door come back wen shi a sleep an wul di couch

  • Met says:

    dotty tell mi about it! she rude man

  • Met says:

    cc mi si wid u cause u wudda reach and she wudda add all that you did not think of doing…so u cut whey fass u seh ? :ngakak

  • ... says:

    Obs a she seh naah let goo oo.

  • Original Goodas says:

    helllloooooooooo all. I’m back

    Me think me would a come back and dem crucify me comment this morning with dislike but I see is not me alone feel so

  • Met says:

    if mi did put la ina di heading maybe dem would u know dislike a fi dem bread, butter, tea and bath soap

  • Observer says:

    OG :peluk

    hayyy cc a dat my bredda dem duh caw ooman mout dangeruss enuh :ngakak yah haffi gi dem a walk mor time jah noe

    yes dotty a she naw let guh but she betta wake up n smell har coffee ooooooo

  • realthing says:

    feeding off a comment dotty say. We really have become a society of strong independent women, I think its because men have failed so many of us. Most where raised by single mothers and we saw them do everything n play the role of both mom and dad. So we this generation feel we tuff and bad, we nah back from nuh man, we all a throw big lick fuss and as me say we refuse to back dung when the fight start.

    But in all honestly we need the males, because some a we have good men and we nuh allow them fi play the man role and tek care a we because we independent n strong minded.

    We need to stop telling the men that we meet & date that we can do everything for our self & buy everything we need. If that’s the case, why should he hang around? Men have an innate desire to provide, but if u can do everything, then u don’t need him & men want to be needed.

  • Observer says:

    met_______________________________________________________________

  • ... says:

    OG welcome back, CC yuh come in like mi husband lol but him go inna bathroom an start one piece a singing when him come home bout wah jus tek place tll mi haffi laugh cause him cyaan sing fi save him life.

  • Original Goodas says:

    ne met when me lef out it was hidden due to low wid 4 dislikes, but me just look and it recover

    Observer our man too tiny fi try fight we, him weigh 100 soaking wet..dwl

  • Observer says:

    dwl @ OG

  • DWRL says:

    EVERYBODY LOOKING FAME OFFA RIHANNA FzzING NAME!!! smfh WHO GIVES A FxxK IF YOU NO RESPECT HAR?? didnt she get ENOUGHT fxxng attention for that shit over the past few years?? WHO GIVES A FxxK A SHE A TEK THE BEATEN

  • ... says:

    dwrl why u so heated? lol jus asking

  • Met says:

    mek mi :tkp

  • Met says:

    mi sidung yah a read and si dwrl u si anytime she come on and a comment u know mi behind di pc rolling…lmaoooooooooo u know she nuh easy doe

  • Observer says:

    wait fimme met :tkp

  • Observer says:

    met mi noe wi identity confidential but mor time di comment dem match a certain individual mi noe inna real life a chu it nuh rite fi call ppl name widout proof sas crisssssss comments dem mek mi dwl man

  • ... says:

    :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak A so she dangerous Met & Obs? I coming behind unoo :ngacir2

  • Observer says:

    wen yah ask question ask met oooo :travel

  • Belly Bang says:

    AH BATTA BRUISING & PANTY GOVERNMENT HAVE UNNO IN YAH !!!! :bola

    Di amount ah dislike mi pick up from mawning……………………MET !!! YUH WANT BUY SOME DISLIKE????? :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak

  • Belly Bang says:

    MET!!!! MI AH COMMENT & DI COMMENT DUPPY AH NYAM DEM UP!!!

  • Belly Bang says:

    MI NAW EVEN AH BADDA GUH COUNT DI DISLIKE DEM MI ACCUMULATE CAUSE UNNO MUSSI FEEL AH MONOPOLY WI AH PLAY OR BINGO :hoax2 :hoax2

  • Observer says:

    belly inna monopoly n bingo ppl accumulate up tings but inna chess dem tek man oooooo all a dislike comment dem duss gawn suh yuh wah c ova di wifey post mi lickle song by muma saw disappear :ngakak

  • Belly Bang says:

    MI NUH WANT HEAR NOTHING WAH SOME MAN IN YAH AH TAWK.

    MJI DID KNOW ONE WHO USED TO SING PON DI CHURCH CHOIR (yes mi goi now & then) & HIM TELL MI SEH WHEN HIM WANT GUH OUT GUH LOOK FI HIM NEXT WOMAN DEM, HIM JUST SAY SOMETHING OR DO SOMETHING FI PROVOKE DI WIFE MEK SHE START CUSS.

    WHEN SHE START CUSS HIM JUST ‘GET BEX’ AND GRAB HIM KEYS & HEAD OUT.

    DAT WAS DI ROUTINE FI YEARS. ANYWAY, HIM DID FIND HIMSELF INNA DEEP SHIT WHEN ONE NITE IN DI MIDST OF DI QUARREL, HIM COULDNT FIND DI KEYS & DI WIFE BUSS OUT SEH IT TEK HER LONG FI UNDERSTAND HIM TRICKS.

  • Belly Bang says:

    OBSERVER :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak :ngakak MEK I TROD GUH LOOK YAW

  • ... says:

    Belly some a dem a dislike an don’t even understan wat dem disliking. If mi nuh agree wid smaddy comment mi mek mi point mi nuh use di dislike unlesss is someting mi cyaan bodda inna no conversation ova. Dem mussi ketch fits pon di button

  • Class says:

    Rihanna’s dad used to bet the shit out of her mother and she didn’t leave; therefore Ri knows no better. Children live what they learn. Moving on.

  • Observer says:

    a same suh cb madda seh to bout em fadda

  • Brightlight says:

    Too many women provoke men. I don’t agree with this topic and it’s never black and white. Some women get kick up and boxed badly and will not leave. Then young young love between to kids because they were kids to me that just got out of hand. And I said from the beginning that Ri used to beat Chris and the beating she get was one where I feel he just balck out from built up frustration.

    I believe he was truly sorry for what he did but she also learn to keep her hands to herself and not to hurt the one she loves.

    I used to slap up my 1st boyfriend all the time. Coming up seeing my mother beaten I grew up daring a man to beat me so I could “fxk him up” because I wasn’t going to be my mother. Until the day my boyfriend slapped me back and I saw stars then I realize I was wrong for putting my hands on him. I have never been in a physically abusive relationship.

    I don’t know how some woman tek beating regular but I do see some women who love run up behind their man when the man trying to walk away and they keep provoking him. Nah. That’s wrong. That’s him trying to keep his cool and calm his rising anger. Some women, not all, love to provoke men.

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