Good-day, Afternoon and Goodnight, Ms Kitty,

I am writing in response to your article dated, 12-10-09 , titled, ”Get A Life, Not pregnant. To ensure we are on the same page, I consulted the dictionary for a defined definition of ”Woman”. Which is as follows

noun 1.the female human being (distinguished from man ).

2.an adult female person.

3.a female attendant to a lady of rank.

4.a wife.

5.the nature, characteristics, or feelings often attributed to women; womanliness.

6.a sweetheart or paramour; mistress.

7.a female employee or representative: A woman from the real estate agency called.

8.a female person who cleans house, cooks, etc.; housekeeper: The woman will be in to clean today.

9.women collectively: Woman is no longer subordinate

I , being also a woman from the selected definitions, would like to chose for now, definition (1). Which states woman, as being a female human being. Ms Kitty your article not only disappointed me, but perplexed me to the point of anger. Anger stemming from the fact that we as female human beings, distinguished from males, are our own worst enemies. Ms Kitty you have no idea of the situations that led to some of the young girls /”hype man hoppers, getting pregnant. It is humorous how from a far you have made a pre-muture judgement on a nation of women, Ms Kitty in your eyes it may not appear so , but in your article, that’s what you have done. I will not dispute that there are not misguided young women in our nation, and I use the term misguided because, there are always situations or instances that lead to a certain behavior.

We as women sometimes forget that we were once knee high, and what we were like before we came into wisdom, what we must also understand is that while we have gotten wise, we must teach the unwise. Ms Kitty whether a woman intends to trap a man by getting pregnant however the means, the life that is brought fourth should be the main focus, because that child isn’t only that male or female’s future , it is our country’s future and in saying that I will repeat. It doesn’t matter how that life was created. The life is already upon the earth and preparations for its upbringing should be the main focus.

Ms Kitty you have stated that you are not a fan of the ”pity campaign ” of these hyped pretty girls with those lovely shapes but what you have forgotten is that,( if you are indeed a woman ) if these ”trapper women” indeed sneer a hyped man, that child should, by law be taken care of in a hyped way. There is no if, ands or buts around this. Sometime last week, Chino McGreggor announced that he has indeed fathered a child and was happy about it. No sign of remorse detected, why? Because he is indeed a man and is way beyond blaming the woman or the child’s conception.He has seen the bigger picture, there is a life that needs to be maintained and he is a father. You have said these young girls don’t even have a mattress, what is a mattress? Can it not be bought at any point in one’s life? What kind values are you influential people ”throwing out” into Jamaica’s hyped society? What words of encouragement are you sending them? I forgot that you are the same Ms Kitty who entourage’s fluffies to be confident, yes to be confident in being over-weight and unhealthy but I guess its hard to encourage the ‘hyped, pretty girls with the lovely shapes to be better women.

Yours Truly

Jamaicangroupiemet

The more things change, the more they remain the same and is like some women have not come to the realisation seh pickney naah hol’ man again, and they find themselves in precarious positions and try to solicit sympathy when dem go conceive through fair or foul means. They scheme and scam in an attempt to secure the man’s heart or legacy, ostensibly for the child, when deep down, a fi dem selfish self!

Of late, many young girls have found themselves embroiled in a you’re-the-father-but-yuh-naah-mind-yuh-pickney saga, hoping that pubilicity would alter their unfortunate reality. Many have weighed in an cuss di artiste dem, and I agree wid the cussing to a degree but my line is drawn when these girls make bad and reckless decisions and expect that other people must pick up the tab or excuse their mess, A nuh so life go!

Why get pregnant fi a man who ‘have it’ and don’t have a bed or somewhere to put it? Why get pregnant fi a man who obviously have him life sort out and a keep busy while you haffi a box ’bout wid friends? Why get pregnant when you cyaan stand up as a woman on your own two feet and chart a responsible course in life fi you an yuh child? It seems to me like some girl naah prioritise, and when dem master plan backfire pon dem, dem want fi blame di universe.
be a provider
I believe that a man should maintain and provide for his child and not just financially, but emotionally and psychologically also, because a child need fi have a relationship wid him father, not just through Mr Shearer or Mr Manley or in some cases, Mr Benjamin. It nauseates me though, when some of these young girls think that dem pretty looks, shape, complexion and bedroom acrobatics will take them through life, and when reality hit them that they a dime a dozen, dem waan play the role of the victim.
The shame is not just to be levied against the artiste, who is allegedly not taking care of his child, but it is also an indictment on the young women, who see di fire an run go jump inna it an expect it a go cool down. Nuff a dem see bling-bling and run een and start tip pon dem toe till dem become baby mother and di man step out lef dem.

Nuff a dem empty and shallow like barrel and tink seh di belly woulda give dem house an land and ring. Is it the artiste, or any man for that matter, who really should be held responsible if a child was conceived without his consent, or should the female who desperately want di baby fi di man assume full responsibility and just hope seh di man will chip in and help her? Anyway yuh tek it, the child is the innocent victim and it is unfair to him or her.

If a girl a go tek a hot man, she must mek sure she have a hot place fi rest her head, or have what it takes fi find a hot place fi live at a moment’s notice. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes gets caught up in the moment, but does someone who orchestrate and know di full hundred wid some man deserve empathy, or should they be expected to face the music?
hol’ a man
If a man genuinely naaah tek care a him yute, wi bun dat, but some jeyes-ears girl weh ketch a belly fi try hol’ a man, wi bun dat too. More time, it better yuh keep yuh ovaries quiet because nine time outta 10, di money man dem naah settle wid a one girl or child, especially if is a neva-see-come-see caw dem a galis. Furthermore, dem expect fi free, cause a bag a gal a run dem down, weh yuh expect dem fi do? Some of these little girls need to assess their situation and pay more attention to developing themselves.
Not only are some of these girls having unprotected sex, dem a have it wid nuff different man all at the same time an a gwaan like dem a goodas – all when dem come inna 20 music videos. If me was dem, mi woulda tek weh miself! Nuff a dem don’t even have no shame because instead of being at home and nurturing their ‘fatherless’ child and deh pon Google a try find them baby-father, dem deh a dance inna video light an a hype and don’t even have a mattress!
Nuff a dem is from one hype man to di next an dont have a ting fi show outta it and even if some have, it left to the discretion of the man how long they will allow dem fi keep it. Don’t try stick up a man or trap a man with a child. Is the surest way fi him hate yuh if that’s not where he wants to be. Love of self, respect for self and reliance on self are of paramount importance, and if jackass nuh know how him rear end set, don’t swallow orange ball!

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