YUH SI HOW MAN TAN

Dear All,

I am very depressed because I have done a sin.

I am married but was on an assignment in Kisii for 3 weeks and befriended a local girl, while I stayed in Harvana Hotel (Nile Restaurant – Or something like that). She started loving me and started fantasizing about our marriage within 2 weeks. I didn’t tell her that I was already married. Then she told me to have sex though I was continuously telling her that not now.

But once she came in my room and we had intercourse though I was really not that interested. I was continuously telling her that my family won’t accept her because of the tribal difference and also she is not that much educated as I am. But she said at that time that she won’t force me if I couldn’t marry her. I really made the biggest mistake of my life and the day before I left Kisii we had a sex. The next day again she came to my room to say goodbye and we had sex again. Then I left that town.

For the next 20 days I was in touch with her. But then I changed my phone number and stopped replying to her facebook messages, defriended her as well but she started sending messages that without me she couldn’t live. Though I didn’t reply her mails for about 2 months, she continuously sends messages once in 5-8 days and now started saying that if I don’t reply then she would leave this world.

She was a virgin and because she feels that sex before marriage is a sin she says that she can’t face her mom and family if I don’t marry her.

Now I am in a big trouble. If she commits suicide then I would feel guilty. If she writes my name in a suicide note then I would be behind bars. She may also frame me by saying that I had sex with her in pretext of marring her.

Friends I am really really desperate and have been having tension for the past 10-15 days. She doesn’t have any friend that I know of whom I can talk to and ask her to convince this girl not to commit suicide and I don’t know how to convince her to not to think of killing herself.

She is that kind of a girl who thinks that if a girl has sex then she belongs exclusively to that man and she should not even think about anyone else.

What do I do?