FI ALL WHO LOVE DI STORY DEM…MADDA VS EVIL DAWTA IN LAW ?

Dear Taiwo,
I implore you and your numerous readers who are mothers to, please, help me. I don’t know what to do and I have never seen a woman as devilish as my daughter – in—law.

Her effrontery scares me and I don’t know how to save my son from her claws. Even if I could, where will he go or how will he start his life again? He has been reduced to a lesser human being and I wonder if his dignity is still intact.

When they started their relationship, I complained about this lady but my son would not listen. In fact, at a level I was branded a witch even by my own son and he actually stopped me from coming to his house.

They both attended the same higher institution and she became pregnant for my son during her second year in school. I can say that that year was the toughest we had, because when her parents found out she was pregnant, they made life miserable for us all.

Despite the fact that they are very comfortable, her father insisted that since my son had impregnated her, she had become our responsibility. They knew that we were only comfortable, but not rich, but to the glory of God, we were able to see her through school and even to youth service.

The fact that we had to train the two of them while in the university was an additional weight on our finances, coupled with the fact that we also had to be responsible for the new born baby. This led to the fact that my other children had to learn different trades and could not further their education. They all did not get beyond secondary education.

Tobi, my son, realised this and the sacrifice his siblings gave him and was ready to help them, but his wife would not allow him.

After his youth service, he secured a very good job, and after working for about two years he felt it was time to marry Yemisi properly. Before then, I had seen some signs that she would not make a good wife, I raised this issue with my husband and son, but they said there was nothing that could be done about it.They said if she were my daughter, how would I feel, if the father of her baby refused to marry her.

I consented and started praying for my son, as there was nothing else I could do. She, however, began to show her true colour when I was asked to come over and help take care of the child she had immediately after their wedding ceremony.

Can you believe that Yemisi would leave me in the house and go to work without food? She would lock the kitchen and store and instruct her housemaid not to give me food. Several times, I have had to eat the food meant for her housemaid, as the little girl out of pity would give me her food.

Aside this, she would also instruct her not to allow me to carry the baby. I really do not know why she hated me that much. I raised this issue with Tobi, but he pleaded with me to be patient for his sake. He then resolved to bringing home food for me after he must have dropped Yemisi in the office.

This was how I stayed till I went back to my house. During the course of my stay with them, I fell ill and I needed to go to the hospital, she refused to allow my son take me to his office’s hospital. Her refusal led to a big fight between them and if Tobi had not stood his ground, I wouldn’t have received treatment at the hospital.

Her argument was that the facility they had at the hospital was meant for Tobi and his nuclear family alone. This was not a hospital they had to pay cash and it was my son’s company that would pay the bills.

After I had left, any of my children who went to see their brother was sent back. At a point, Tobi told his siblings to see him at the office and if any one of them had to spend a night, he would lodge them in the hotel.

When Tobi’s immediate sibling wanted to get married, Yemisi caused a lot of problems because she said that Tobi footed all the bills which were a lie any way. Few weeks after Lere’s wedding, Tobi lost his job. Nobody thought anything of this. It took him time before he could get another job.

Fortunately, he got a job outside Lagos and this gave his siblings a degree of freedom to see him. At this point, Tobi started construction of his own house, he did not tell us until the building was almost completed and the day he told us, he pleaded that we should not let Yemisi know that he told us.

She was to know that we knew about the house when we (my husband and I) had to visit them after they had moved into the house. She instructed her children not to greet us or even take any of the things we gave to them. The most painful thing however, was that we met her own mother and two other siblings there. We learnt her mother was sick and she had been around for a while.

Tobi, lost his job the very week we visited them. Even at this no one thought of anything until it became a trend that any time Yemisi learnt that Tobi did anything for his siblings, or his parents he would lose his job or something would happen to him.

At the count of the fifth job, I raised the alarm and my husband and I sought spiritual assistance. It was then we learnt that Yemisi was responsible for the fate of her husband. As at then, Tobi had almost become a recluse, living on her handout. He would do the household chores and school runs while Yemisi went to work. He couldn’t do anything without asking her for money.

The saddest thing, however, was that they had to sell Tobi’s building to settle a bank debt that her father incurred before he died to avoid the bank’s taking over her father’s house in their home town. Yet my son saw nothing wrong in this.

It got to a stage that I had to confront Yemisi about her evil deeds, Taiwo, I was shocked that she did not even try to deny it. She was bold enough to tell me that my son would remain that way until he learnt to obey her. His offence, however, was the fact that he insisted on taking care of his family after she had warned him to stop.

She now has three female children for Tobi, she had a son who died at birth and typically, I was accused of killing the baby. I never even knew she was pregnant at that time. Her mother was aware of all these because she is living with them.

Please, help me. How I can save my son.