Meet the men who killed chivalry

By DONNA HUSSEY-WHYTE All Woman writer

Monday, September 24, 2012

CHIVALRY.

According to Women’s Media Watch, it comprises ”acts of courtesy, consideration and gallantry by a man towards a woman based on gender roles”.

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Relationship counsellor Wayne Powell feels that some men understand this concept — ”chivalry is alive and well among men born in the ’60s and before,” he said.

But it died, he said, with those born in the ’70s and beyond. This week we asked women to share their stories about some of the men who killed chivalry — some sad, some hilarious, and some that caused the whole male/female dynamics to change.

Ann-Marie Whyte:

I was going into my office one day with a male co-worker. He was about two steps in front of me so naturally when he opened the door to the building I thought it was the most natural thing for him to hold it until I went through. With this in mind, I was looking down to ensure that I did not miss the step-up to the door, only to feel the door literally hit me in the face! My co-worker, despite knowing I was right behind him, had let the door go and it swung back before I could catch it. I made an oof sound and he looked around, but continued on his way. I don’t know if he didn’t realise what he had done or if it just never mattered to him.

Primose Saunders:

When my boyfriend and I just started talking, I was going in his car and instead of coming around and opening my door, he jumped behind the wheel and started the car engine even before I was in the car. The first time this happened I thought about it for days. But then I soon realised that this was the norm for him.

Angela Bennett:

I went out with a male friend once to a club to have drinks. When we finished he sat there as if he expected me to pay for them. I just sat there looking too and pretended as if I did not know what he was up to. Eventually he had to pay ’cause at the end of the day he was the one the bartender handed the bill to.

Julia Clarke:

I had just started dating this guy and he came across as gentlemanly, so naturally I assumed that he was the chivalrous type. One day he came to pick me up for a movie date and I stood by the car door expecting him to open it for me. But he just got into his side and sat their waiting and fiddling with his phone. I continued waiting for a little bit, but it started to drizzle so I just got in when I realised that if it was up to him I’d be standing there all night.

Jennifer Reid:

This guy and I were supposed to meet at Emancipation Park one evening. I was there for an hour and could not hear from him. I ended up calling him three times to find out what was happening. The first two times I did not get him and he did not return my call. The third time I got him and he told me he was on his way. After another 20 minutes of waiting and still not seeing or hearing from him, I just jumped into my car and went home. I never made another date with him.

Lucy, B:

I used to shop downtown but always had a problem taking the bags from the wholesale to the nearest taxi stand. One day it was getting late and I had several heavy bags and I saw a taxi and beckoned to him. The man just stood there and waited until I got to the car, then just opened the trunk and I had to put every bag inside. He then commented on what a ”nice, strong” woman I was. If it wasn’t getting late and I had other transport options I would have told him where to get off.

Sashoy Cummings:

I was at a bus stop in Linstead town one evening and a guy I had always liked slapped me on my butt. I told him I did not like it but apparently he took it as a joke and so he slapped me again. Again, I told him not to do it. This time he was laughing and attempted to do it a third time. Before he could, however, I raised my hand and slapped him in the face! Persons standing at the bus stop had to come between us because of course he did not think it manly for him to take a slap from a female. That is the worst thing you could ever do to me in public because I believe it is very disrespectful and ungentlemanly and really doesn’t say much about you as a man. That was the day I stopped liking him.

Kerene:

I was in the canteen at my workplace one day when this lady in an advanced stage of pregnancy accidentally dropped some coins on the floor. There was a young man standing in the lunch line behind her and so I thought the next thing that would happen was that he would pick them up for her. To my surprise, he didn’t. He just stood there and watched the woman struggle to bend to pick up the money. I had to just shake my head.

Anika S:

I had just sold my car and was taking the bus for a few weeks with my young daughter. One evening I went on one, struggling with the baby. All the men looked up and then looked away. One volunteered to hold the baby, ”as long as it smell clean”. It was a little school boy who actually got up and offered me his seat.

Read more: http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/magazines/allwoman/Meet-the-men-who-killed-chivalry_12572688#ixzz27OsrEydB

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THERE was pandemonium in Elele community, near Auchi, Etsako West Local Government Area of Edo State, yesterday, when two cousins, Aishetu and Ayibaba, were paraded by the villagers after they were allegedly caught in a bush path committing incest.

Ayibaba, who is said to be the son of a highly placed chief in the community, was said to have been caught in the immoral act with his first cousin, who is said to be married with three children.

However, luck ran out of them, when some community members caught them pants down, under a cashew tree. They were consequently dragged to the village square unclad, while villagers thronged the square to have a glimpse of them.

It was gathered that Aishetu’s three children were in the crowd while their mother was being paraded before the public.

“We learnt that they have been involved in this immoral act for a long time now. They always go to the bush to made love. So some members of our community followed them into the bush and immediately they started under the cashew tree, they were caught and handcuffed immediately,”

It was observed that the duo were finally taken to Ayibaba’s family house, where they met with the family.

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Our Proper Response To Suffering Helps Others

It is said that “no man is an island.” For Christians, this is certainly true. Remember 1 Peter 5:9, which says that your brothers and sisters in the Lord are faced with the same sufferings you are? That is why we can help one another if we deal with Satan’s tests in a godly manner. This fact should be added incentive for us to do so. The following verses aptly express this truth:

2 Corinthians 1:3-7
(3) Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort,
(4) Who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
(5) For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.
(6) If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer.
(7) And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.

Obstacles are opportunities for growth. Verse five shows that the bigger the obstacle, the more comfort, strength and wisdom the Lord will give you to help you deal with it. Once you are on the other side of the challenge, you get to keep all that you learned and gained in the experience. Thus you have experienced “growth.”

2 Corinthians 1:5 (above) speaks of “the sufferings of Christ flowing over into our lives.” This is one of several passages of Scripture that touch upon a Christian’s identification with the sufferings of his Savior. Here are some others:

Colossians 1:24
Now I rejoice in what was suffered for you, and I fill up [complete] in my flesh what is still lacking in regard to Christ’s afflictions, for the sake of his body, which is the church.

Philippians 3:10
I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.

Although we may not understand it all, “the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings” somehow enables us to be a part of Christ’s redemptive ministry, and it benefits others, as did his suffering. If you look back to 2 Corinthians 1:3-7 (above), you can see this truth.

Verse 5 says that though the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, “so also through Christ our comfort overflows.” Why? Because, as Hebrews 4:15 states, we do not have a Lord “who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are— yet without sin.”

When properly understood from Scripture, the magnitude of Jesus’ sufferings— physical and emotional— far exceeds what most Christians will have to endure. Let us remember that he basically suffered alone, in terms of human companionship. He knows that companionship is vital for suffering people, and he will always be with us, no matter what our circumstances. “Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted” (Heb. 2:18). That is why each of us should “approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need” (Heb. 4:16).

Certainly the Apostle Paul’s ability to deal with all that he suffered (see 2 Corinthians 11:23ff) was in large part due to his comprehending the truths that he himself would later set forth in Scripture. Paul fully realized, even while alone in his sufferings, that how he responded would affect the lives of many other Christians. We too can be motivated to faithfulness by this same truth. No Christian is “the Lone Ranger.” There is comfort and strength in standing shoulder-to-shoulder in battle and supporting one another in times of suffering, because your example of resolute faith and joy can encourage others, and vice versa. Here we are talking about what we like to call “the camaraderie of the committed,” one of the true joys of life.

Furthermore, suffering can actually contribute to the hope of Paradise being magnified in our hearts. As Rice says:

Suffering reminds us that something is drastically wrong with our present situation…One effect of sin is our tendency to find satisfaction in things of less than ultimate value. We are in constant danger of becoming so comfortable with the temporal material things that we lose sight of the eternal. Suffering jolts us into realizing that our destiny lies beyond this world. [1]

God promises us that He will strengthen us in time of trouble, and one day by His power and grace glorify Himself in us in the age to come. At the bottom line of life’s balance sheet is our hope of everlasting life, guaranteed to each Christian by the gift of holy spirit.

Romans 5:1-5
(1) Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ,
(2) Through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we rejoice in the hope of the glory of God.
(3) Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance;
(4) Perseverance, character [dokime— what is produced by passing the test]; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his
(5) Love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom [holy spirit which] he has given us.

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