Surprisingly, there are those who believe that lust and love are inseparable, often synonymous. Science even suggested that lust may be more genetics than a matter of choice. Is lust a counterpart to love? Must love ultimately become lust?

Throughout history, some civilizations have celebrated lust. Their gods honored mankind’s carnality.

• Goddesses of Wanton Love – Achtland (Celtic), Anna Perenna (Etruscan), Arianrhod (Welsh)
• Goddesses of Prostitution – Flora (Roman), P’an Chin-lien (Chinese)
• Goddesses/gods of Lust/Frenzied Love – Ichpuchtli (Aztec), Lempo (Finnish), Rangda (Balinese)

While emphasis is placed on the sexual lust, any insatiable desire for power, money, or object is also lustful. As one of The Seven Deadly Sins, lust seems the most insidious. The continual longing with the mind soon gives way to committing the act. As a person’s heart becomes hardened, they become insensitive “giving themselves over to sensuality so as to indulge in every kind of impurity, with a continual lust for more” (Ephesians 4:18-19). Soon, the state of one’s heart becomes as deadly as the act itself (Matthew 8:28).

Love and Lust- What does God say?
Those who would suggest lust and love are counterparts are ignoring God. God created our capacity to love. “Let us love one another for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7).

From a worldview, lust and love seem interchangeable. The world offers fantasizing in place of experiencing the reality of God’s love. The disciple Paul speaks of the choices one faces regarding love and lust (1 Timothy 3:1-5). We are warned, “Do not love the world or anything in the world . . . for everything in the world — the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and boasting of what he has and does — come not from the Father [God] but from the world” (1 John 2:15-16). Through His Son, Jesus Christ, God offers us a fulfilling relationship based on His affection and devotion — God Is Love.

Love – A Description
Love is described in 1 Corinthians 13:

“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

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A young Queens woman was killed by a party crasher who fired shots through a closed door after she helped toss him from the bash Sunday, cops and her family said.

Police announced the arrest of the suspected murderer early Monday.

The victim, Avalisa Morris, 26, had planned the surprise party in St. Albans for a close friend’s birthday. She spent all day Saturday cooking Caribbean food for the special occasion, her stunned family said.

“She was a people pleaser,” said her great-uncle, Spencer Grant. “She was in the act of doing something kind and suffered a senseless death.”

The man who crashed the party at a two-story home on 119th Road came to see a female guest over a previous dispute, police and Morris’ family said.

O’neil Mairs, 23, of Springfield Gardens, Queens, was kicked out and had a basement door locked behind him shortly before 4:30 a.m. Morris was the one who made sure he and others involved in the argument didn’t get back inside.

“She was at the door, and the people that were fighting went outside,” said her cousin, Larrissa Whyte, who was at the party.

“And she closed the door, and she was standing by the door to make sure that they didn’t come back in.”

Furious over getting the boot, Mairs ruthlessly fired at least two rounds through the closed door, cops said. Morris was hit in the head and the abdomen, police said. She fell to the floor and died.

Whyte, who helped Morris plan the party, was upstairs when the gunfire set off pandemonium in the basement.

“Everybody ran up the stairs to come out the front door,” Whyte told the Daily News outside the party as detectives investigated her cousin’s murder.

“I was looking for her, and somebody said she got shot. So I went downstairs.”

Whyte broke down in tears as she recalled finding her mortally wounded cousin lying on the floor, just inside the basement door.

The killer fled the scene. But cops later arrested Mairs  and charged him with murder, criminal possession of a weapon and reckless endangerment.

Morris’ loved ones grieved at a family home in Springfield Gardens. Grant, Morris’ great-uncle, described her as “so friendly and so, so courteous.”

“Every time I seen her, it was always a hug and a smile,” he said. “I never saw her angry.”

Morris worked as a personal banker at a Capitol One branch in Queens. She was born in Jamaica and came to the U.S. a dozen years ago. The party was for a friend who worked at the Macy’s in Green Acres Mall in Valley Stream, L.I.

“She cooked all day,” said Morris’ aunt Audrelyn Anderson, remembering how Morris spent Saturday cooking for the party. She made Caribbean dishes like oxtail, goat, and rice and peas.

Morris’ mother went into seclusion yesterday after the murder of her only child, relatives said. And Morris’ cousin, Whyte, was inconsolable.

“They’re just like twins. They were always together,” Grant said. “Since she came home, she’s been in bed.”

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Forgiving Infidelity – The Biblical View
Forgiving infidelity is essential. God takes a very strong stance against marital infidelity. The term adultery is used 15 times in the Old Testament and 18 times in the New Testament. Every mention is some sort of admonition about or against the act. In the book of Proverbs, we learn that whoever commits adultery lacks understanding and destroys his or her own soul. “You shall not commit adultery” is the seventh of God’s Ten Commandments to us, and in Jewish law, anyone who committed adultery was to be given the ultimate punishment and be put to death. There were not a lot of offenses punishable by death in the Jewish law, but adultery was one of them. That’s how strongly God feels about marital infidelity.

Forgiving Infidelity – Where to Get Help
There is help for forgiving infidelity. God created the sacred bond of marriage between a man and a woman and He wants to protect that bond, so He gave the commandment against adultery. God knows that marital infidelity will tear a marriage apart, so He never condones it, and He always requires that the offenders be punished. However, He also knows that we are weak, selfish individuals who will commit adultery despite His warnings and commandments, so He provided a way for us to break out of our destructive, sinful patterns.

God sent His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer the ultimate punishment of death for our sins. Jesus died in our place; He died in my place. I committed the adultery, yet God put His only Son to death for it. This is God’s grace to me. I put my faith in Jesus Christ as my Savior and God wiped away my sins. I started my life fresh, as if I was just born (actually reborn through God’s Holy Spirit); and through the power and love of Jesus Christ, I was able to stop committing adultery. The strength did not come from within myself. Believe me, I tried to break my destructive pattern on my own several times, but I was unsuccessful because I was focused on me. I still had that emptiness that needed to be filled. Only a relationship with my loving Creator could fill that emptiness. Through that relationship, Jesus changed me so that rather than being focused on myself, my heart was turned toward helping others. As I began to look outside myself and see the needs of others, my life was no longer empty. I was excited (and continue to be excited) about my future of serving others and glorifying God.

Forgiving Infidelity – The Source of Forgiveness
If you are struggling with the issue of marital infidelity — either as someone whose spouse has or is being unfaithful, or as someone like me who was (or is) an unfaithful spouse — you can find the same help I found in the person of Jesus Christ.