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Checking his or her PHONE, right or wrong?

You trust him/her, yes you do so very much but sometimes you just can’t fight the urge to look through his/her recent messages, recent contacts, recent emails, recent bbm chats and maybe just maybe even DMs.
It doesn’t mean you are snoopy or don’t trust your partner yeah, but you just feel a little uncomfortable about where he/she told you he/she was on Friday night.
The question here is however, does it make you feel better? Or let me rephrase, does it make you feel foolish when you find absolutely nothing or worse get caught?
Ninety percent of men/women in a relationship would go the extra mile to know what their partners got up to during their “alone” time but is it all worth the risk? Here are a few things that can happen when you go out of your way to “police” your partner
You could get caught
If you get caught this leads to embarrassment and lack of trust, this time your partner would be the one not trusting you.
You could lose that relationship because not everyone reacts to not being trusted in a nice way
You might actually not get caught but you might end up feeling foolish all by yourself when all you find are probably annoying messages from your mobile provider,messages from his/her friends and other harmless messages. Then you ask yourself, why did I do this?
Maybe you shouldn’t check at all? We do not need research to tell us that a partner who snoops around his/her spouse’s phone/things doesn’t trust that spouse, but what caused this in the first place?
Something he/she said or did? How about communication? Have you tried to talk these suspicions you have over? have you tried to trash it out? Pick a day and a time and find a quiet place while you gently discuss your doubts. If you sense your partner might be lying, the only way to find out the truth is if you actually ask. If you are still not convinced, then give it time, he/she can’t fool you forever, so don’t go about snooping around the house like a guard dog.
Again, it might not be something your partner might have said, it might just be a hunch you are getting and you believe your guts never lie but again how about you discuss this and stop letting paranoia rule your relationship? Remember if your spouse judged you by some hunch or random thought, you guys might just not be together.

Revenge

Not yesterday, but centuries long,
The Romans hated all of Negro blood,
For Hannibal did slay the crew,
As Carthage marched to martial song.
Again Adowa made them halt,
When Menelik did crush them low:
He proved the Blacks were timely men-
The heroes still without a fault.

But Italy kept crying out,
And longed for day of victory:
With Mussolini, courage came,
To fight to win without a doubt:
They used the weapons not allowed,
And took advantage as they went:
They crushed Selassie’s mighty host
With Blacks Badoglio followed.

The Blacks shall come together now,
And they shall blast the way again:
Revenge is sweet! the Romans say;
Revenge! is on the Black Man’s brow.
0 sing the song of Carthage, great,
0 sing the song of Afric’, free:
The day will come to win again,
And pass to Italy her fate.

No man shall stop the moving throng
That goes to snatch the victory:
The world has bled the Black Man’s heart,
And downed him, too, with all the wrong.
Come now and go in vision clear,
Right up to good Adowa’s mount,
And let Italians ever feel
The dash of weapons in their rear.

If not on Ethiopian land,
Go, follow them where’er they go:
Join English, French or Russian, too,
And all together strike the band-
That band of Roman renegades-
Blood-thirsty men of Fascist’s creed;
With Mussolini as their head
They’ll die by gas and hot grenades.

Revenge is all! it’s written there,
And Blacks will ne’er forget the call:
Like gods of old, let’s live on high,
And each one dream of glory, fair.
The Rome of sin shall fall again,
As Addis rise toward the sun;
So pledge your word to sacred trust
And hurl Italians to the plain.

(by marcus garvey -1937)

Am newly wedded 5 months to be precise pls help save my marriage

Am 24 year old lady, I met my bf who’s now my husband in a eatery near my school we got talking and I liked his person, he’s cute and above all he works in a bank to cut it all short he’s just perfect for me, we started dating till he invited me over to his house, I was so glad that at least I will get to meet with someone in his family although he told me his brother stays with him.

That evening I visited, his brother wasn’t home not quit long we started talking he walked in geez this guy his even looking more handsome than my bf the way he smiled at me just melted my soul, we both greeted and he went into his room, seeing him walk alone into his room just make me start fantasizing about having him, it took me few minutes to realize what I was doing, he later came out and my bf formally introduced him to me I was so shocked to know he was running his PGD program in my school and sometimes he stays somewhere in an apartment he rented off campus just for the purpose of his program, he casually gave me the address and I stored it in my head, before leaving I requested for his number so I can call him to know when he’s in school he obliged my bf only smiled at our conversation.

A week after I placed a call through to him and asked if he was on campus he replied no but will let me know when he’s in, the next day he called me and said I should meet him at the park on campus I quickly rushed down to see him, we greeted and he hugged me, his hug was just the best I’ve ever had. After talking for a while he said he’s leaving for his base off campus, hun opportunity I said to myself then I turned to him and ask if he could let me come with him so I will get to know where he stays, he said sure; get into the car so we drove down to his place, the closeness got closer till I achieved my aim which is we ended up having sex, I wish he’s the one am dating but I just cannot do anything about it.

I got married to my husband a year later but throughout this period I and his younger brother kept having affairs behind him not only that, I took in for him several times but had to use pills to get rid of it. until this last one I tried all the available pills but to no avail, now am confused on what to do am currently staying off campus for the fear of going back home I lied to my husband I will be writing my exams and so will be staying over for that period he agreed because he promised to always respect my decision, when he came visiting he noticed changes in me but not to the point of suspecting am pregnant.

His brother wants the pregnancy out at all cost and even threatened to kill me if I don’t get rid of it and fast to, he gave me huge sum of money to go get it off but am just too scared to go under the knife for fear of dying as a result of betraying my husband, what do I tell my husband, am newly wedded 5 months to be precise, my life is just doomed right now, I know if he finds out am headed straight for a divorce because his family won’t accept this mess. I need your advice is there any way I can maneuver this without going under the knife and save my marriage.

You are free to insult me but pls do advice on what to do before my husband finds out.