Dear Taiwo,
I don’t know where to start from or how to tell my story, but I know I need help and someone to tell me what to do. Dear Taiwo, I am at a loss; my heart aches and I am hurting. The sad thing, however, is the thought that I brought this on myself, please, kindly help me

I am the first daughter of my family. Although I have two elder brothers, according to my mother, a lot of responsibilities rests on my shoulders, especially those of my younger ones; three of them.

I finished my Ordinary National Diploma(OND) and, during the course of my industrial attachment, I met and fell in love with Dare, one of the IT executives at the company where I served.

I really did not know how it happened, it wasn’t what I planned, but Dare swept me off my feet and I fell for him. I am a member of the Celestial Church of Christ and an elderly woman, who was a secretary at the company and who, because of our religious affiliations, took me like her daughter, warned me.

I really do not know why; my parents also did not like him. My father, who normally takes to people, couldn’t stand him and he always told me then that there was something about Dare that he could not place.

I wish Mama Abigail, (that is what we all fondly called the elderly woman in my office) had told me all she knew about Dare. But even if she did, would I had listened at that time?

To cut my long story short, despite all the warnings and advice, I allowed Dare to have sex with me. In fact, he deflowered me and few months after that day, I discovered that I was pregnant.

Dare would have denied the paternity of my baby. If not for his mother. He lived with his mother and I had visited him at home several times. Thank God his mother liked me and when the issue of my pregnancy came up. She stood her ground and refused to allow me to have an abortion.

Apart from his own issue, I had a tough time at home with my parents and senior siblings. Eventually, my father consented to my relationship with him but he stood his ground on the fact that I must finish my Higher National Diploma before we could get married.

I was delivered of a baby boy; Dare’s carbon copy, I never knew even with the joy of the new baby that Dare had other plans for himself. During my pregnancy, in fact from the time his mother insisted that I keep the pregnancy, he became a changed man from the man I used to know. He treated me with so much disrespect and disdain that, sometimes, I was afraid to approach him for anything.

When it was time to buy the baby stuffs, his mother and mine provided the money. Even the day I gave birth, he was nowhere to be found. Fortunately, I was still living with my parents and they provided enough psychological support for me. I went back for my HND, and I went for Youth service. By the time I returned, I learnt Dare had married and was already raising his own family.

I had no choice but to continue with my life. The funny thing, however, is the fact that I was unable to relate with or even date any other man. As much as Dare disliked me, I loved him more.

My son marked his 10th birthday in June and you won’t believe that his father came back that day, asking for forgiveness and my hand in a relationship.

My parents refused to give their blessing. My father said what he was asking for was rather cheap. Dare wants me to be his other woman as his wedded wife still resides with him. People around me feel I deserve more than he is offering me. Even some of my friends are of the opinion that I don’t need Dare. Unanimously, it has been agreed that he should be allowed to take responsibility for his son.

My problem, however, is that my heart remains with Dare. How can I convince people around me that I love him so much that I don’t even mind being his other woman? Please, help me.

Yewande.

So imagine your 11-year-old daughter has stomach pains. You and your boyfriend decide to take her to the hospital. After some tests, the cause of the stomach pain is revealed: Your 11-year-old daughter doesn’t have the flu nor food poisoning. Nope. She’s pregnant. So, just as you’re trying to adjust to this astounding news, your 42-year-old boyfriend asks for the keys to the car so he can run an errand. And he never returns. This story gets much, much, much worse before it’s over.

When it turns out your 11-year-old daughter is pregnant and your middle-aged boyfriend suddenly disappears, it doesn’t take a genius to put two and two together. But then the boyfriend saves you the trouble by calling you and apologizing for knocking up your 11-year-old kid.

And it gets worse. The man, Gregory Johns, then robs a couple at knife-point. There, he reportedly leaves a note also apologizing to the 11-year-old girl for sexually assaulting her.

And it gets worse. Then the guy breaks into the home of an elderly woman, and allegedly gags her and ties her up for 12 hours. He also calls his girlfriend and tells her that the cops will have to kill him before he goes back to jail. Oh yes, did I mention? He’d been in jail 10 times already — on charges ranging from aggravated assault to armed robbery.

Eventually, the dude holes up in a hotel in Florida, where the cops find him. He reportedly comes out of the bathroom with a knife in hand, threatens the police, and they fatally shoot him.

While we’re all pondering why this mother let her 11-year-old girl around her criminal boyfriend (because this is no doubt what everyone will focus on), let’s consider some other facts: We now reportedly have an 11-year-old girl impregnated by her mother’s dead middle-aged boyfriend. Who is going to say this is a blessing?

I hope the mother does what is right for this little girl for a change and that does not include forcing her to have her dead criminal boyfriend’s baby.

What would you do as a mother in this situation?

Image via Treasure Island Sheriff’s Dept.

Dobet aka dee not so evakute: met this gal in the red dress with black hair she fi stop make her husband beat her every time In front of her Pitney dem. him ever a beat her in front of her 12 year old daughter and police always a cum fi her rescue. Is the man worthy enough fi him beat u every time in front of ur Pitney dem. met me sorry fi her. Cos she married to the boy fi 13years and him ever a beat her and dis her fi ppl, him use to there wid her fren derricka and still a fuk her.My gal u say ur class so wah ya do wid da wotless boy

It’s the gal in the red dress on on the bottom right hand corner. She is dobet

THIS LADY DIED ON HER BACK..WE NEED JUSTICE!

Victim’s sister

daughter

I would advise you Ms Chelsea Handler, not to let Jamaicans and weed be the brunt of your jokes. All Jamaicans do not smoke weed, very few Jamaican women smoke so before you speak on the handful of Jamaicans you know, ask them some questions.

Allegation of Thwarted Threat of Execution on the Life of OCG Staff-Member

Kingston; September 5, 2012 – The Office of the Contractor General (OCG) has received a report of an alleged failed attempt at the execution of one of its staff-members by a Government contractor.

The report, which was conveyed to the OCG this morning, alleges that the OCG staff-member, while he was at a certain location, was identified by the Government contractor. It is further alleged that, unknown to the OCG staff-member, the contractor immediately left the area and returned with gunmen with the intention of killing the OCG staff-member. However, by the time the contractor and the gunmen returned, the staff-member had left the location.

The OCG staff member is one of the primary OCG officials who have been assigned the responsibility of interviewing contractors whose applications for re-registration as Government Works Contractors have been withdrawn from the National Contracts Commission (NCC) Works Contractor Application Process, because of fraudulent representations that the OCG has uncovered in the applications.