Dear Taiwo,

I am pained in my heart and I really need your advice and those of your readers. I am a regular reader of your column, but I never thought I would have a cause to write you.

I need your help. I am a 67-year-old mother of four, three women and a young man. My first daughter is 41, married with two kids. She and my last child; the young man are my source of joy. My second and third, both women are a source of concern to me.

I thank God that my first daughter is happily married, with her own family, if not, I wondered what people would say about me or the questions people would raise. I took care of my children alone. My husband died when my son was four years old, so you all can imagine how long I have been doing things alone, with the help and grace of God.

I am a retired matron/nursing sister, trained in Glasgow Scotland. I have a nursing home that I am managing even while I was in service; the proceeds from this and my salary coupled with what my husband left for us saw my children through school and even tertiary institutions.

They lacked nothing while growing up. We may not have in abundance, but we lacked nothing, so I really cannot place or lay my hands on why these girls are behaving the way they are now.

My second daughter, at present has three children for three different men. She had her first child when she was in her first year in the university she took in for a married man she dated then.

When she left home for campus, she became a changed girl from the child I raised. Her action almost sent me to an early grave. Her mother-in-law took the child so that she could finish school. Along the line, while still in school, her relationship with the father of her child broke up.

I spoke and pleaded with her to move on. I told her she had no reason to settle for less — a married man as there are lots of single men out there, she could get married to when ready. But alas! My daughter only listened, she did not heed my advice.

Because when she went for her youth service in Port Harcourt, she got pregnant and had another child, again for a married man. This act almost broke the man’s home. Eventually, she couldn’t get married to him. She got a job in Port Harcourt and stayed back living as a single parent. Although, the father of her child is responsible for the child.

Three years after, maybe she would have had a chance to settle down and live a good life but her fiance died few weeks to their wedding. I never knew my daughter was carrying his child until she became evidently pregnant.

Now, she has three children and remains a single parent. Her situation gives me sleepless nights.

Recently a woman walked into my nursing home to ask me to beg my daughter not to break her home.

I was shocked when she told me that my daughter had been dating her husband for over three years. She said she had pleaded with her several times to leave her husband alone. They have been married for over 10 years and this woman is still looking unto God for a child. She said she stumbled on a text message by my daughter to her husband that she (my daughter) would do anything to have a child for the man.

She said a lot of things and the fact that my daughter is bent on dating her husband at all cost that my daughter gave him a huge amount of money and is even planning to buy him a car.

I was shocked at what I heard. As if this was not enough she said that few months ago, September precisely her husband called it quits with my daughter, but that her eldest sister in Port Harcourt came to Lagos to plead with her husband on her sister’s behalf. I was too shocked for words.

I asked this woman to give me time to investigate her allegation. She, however, gave me a parting shot. She asked me to warn my daughter that any attempt by her to have a child for her husband would result in her death.

I am old enough not to take any threat with levity, I called my daughter in Port Harcourt and she confirmed this woman’s words. I then called my daughters to a meeting. My concerned daughter’s answer shocked me, she said she would rather die than leave this man alone.

Please, how do I treat this issue?

Train up your child in the word. I did my best. God is my witness but…

Please, help me.

Mrs Ade,

SMH

Title: Raga explains the Pamputae/Pinky kiss

Message Body:
WHAT AH WHOLE HEEP AH EXPLAINING….ALDOE MI NUH WAAN FI TINK SEY PAPMU AH LEZ, DI KISS LOOK MORE DAN DAT.

Di big Pamputae mix-up

Prapa respek to all a mi Tambareen Fambily an mi Mix Up massive. An tun up di blessings pon all listeners of Ragashanti in di Mawning up ya inna Obama Lan, an listeners a Canada an di UK. An big up all a mi ghettoites linky-linky. Bless up to di whole a unu.

A mix-up mi say:

Well, by now all a unu know say di Pamputae mix-up gaan global. Di drama is all about di pitcha wid she an Pinky a kiss.

Jus fi provide context mek mi explain some tings first. Pamputae come fram Fletchas Lan an roll wid a crew fram dung deh weh name di Fabulous Girls. A di same Fabulous Matterhorn shout out inna di beginning a him song Dutty Wine.

Di Fabulous dem a par fram long time. Dem nuh blood related, but di whole a dem move like sistas. Is like a family weh everybady tek care a dem one anneda. Dem know dem one anneda fi years upon years. Dem very supportive a each oda, an wen one inna any problem di res a di crew always rally roun an help each oda.

pregnant

A regula dem have parties fi celebrate birthdays. One a di Fabulous weh name Pinky did a have har birthday party wa day a one club inna New Kingston. Pinky did a drink nuff in celebration a har birthday, soh she did drunkish unda di liquor. Of course, Pamputae did deh a di party a support Pinky. Pamputae is also pregnant.

Apparently, Pinky wid har drunkish self did walk ova to Pamputae right inna di miggle a di club in front a everybody an staat emotionally congratulate Pamputae pon har pregnancy an a tell Pampu say a she nex – which is a very sensitive issue cause Pinky did lose a child. Pamputae, knowing how sensitive di issue is fi Pinky, staat to comfort har an a mek she know say everyting will be awright. In doing so di two a dem hug an kiss because it was a deep emotional and extremely sensitive moment weh fren-fi-life a support fren-fi-life.

Pamputae explain say she an Pinky nuh deh, an dat wen it come to intimacy, woman a nuh har ting. She naa fight gainst woman who goh deh soh, but dat she jus nuh roll dem way deh.

People, me know di kiss look a way, but why would Pamputae, a real gangsta dancehall artiste, deliberately goh fling on big kiss pon Pinky so publicly in front a everybady?? If a soh she did a roll unda di quiet, wouldn’t she be hiding it to prevent people fram find out?? Dem wouldn’t so open wid it. Da one point ya alone strongly support di argument seh Pamputae an Pinky nuh inna nuttin like dat.

threesome

But a bare tings people a mek up fram di pitcha. People a chat say di Fabulous dem a lesbian long time. An how di cameraman screechie pon him belly fi ketch dem roun a one cawna fi tek di pitcha. An how dem do threesome wid a certain popular dancehall artiste whose name me naa call. Dem all a chat say Pamputae an Pinky live togeda long time.

A BARE LIE DEM DEH!! NOT A TING NUH GOH SOH!!! A bad mind an wicked people who nuh like di Fabulous dem a walk an a mek up di lie dem, an a rinse bare almshouse weh nuh goh soh. Some a dem fi guweh an goh full dem belly before dem flush dem toilet!! Dem heart need fi know soap an disinfectant!!

A nuh di Fabulous fault mek dem a tek more man dan how Spanish Town road tek cyar! An a nuh di Fabulous fault mek some bad mind, heng-pon-nail dash out dem supm fi visa, an all now dem cyaan reach airport! A nuh Pamputae an Pinky mek Devon House grass know every muscle inna some a dem back!

UNU LOWE DI FABULOUS DEM!!!

A wa do some alien??!!

But pon a different note though, Pamputae, Pinky … dem trouble making crasses bwoy dem dung a Lan mus a give it to unu now eeh. Dem mus a draw bare card pon unu every day. Lol.

Big up Fletchas Lan straight!! Raga say dat!

Me a cut ya now. See unu Tuesday same place ya soh. Bless up unu self.

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DRIVER VS STUDENT by metshani

Man finds wife HAVING SEX behind an anthill, kills the LOVER
HIGH Court judge Justice Martin Makonese has sentenced a man from Juru Growth Point to two years behind bars for killing his wife’s boyfriend after finding them in a compromising position.

The judge found there was extreme provocation of the accused, Tongogara Machimbidza, before slapping him with a five-year jail term for culpable homicide. Three of the five years were, however, suspended on condition of good behaviour.

The court heard that Machimbidza (34), of Musungate village in Chief Chikwaka’s area in Mashonaland East, used a knobkerrie to club Wilson Zhanda (32) to death after he found him having sex with his wife behind an anthill near his homestead.

Justice Makonese heard the incident occurred on August 8, 2011 after Machimbidza sent his wife to buy paraffin earlier in the day and became worried when she failed to return home in time.

While at Juru shopping centre, Machimbidza’s wife, Susan Mugumi (age not given), met her lover, Zhanda, and the two decided to walk home together and as they approached Machimbidza’s homestead, the pair had sex behind the anthill under cover of darkness.

At about 7pm, Machimbidza is said to have left his children at home and decided to follow his wife.

As Machimbidza left his homestead, he walked along a footpath passing through the fields where he heard the lovebirds talking to each other and managed to recognise his wife’s voice, prompting him to move closer and investigate.

The court heard that to his amazement, Machimbidza found the two in a compromising position. Realising that they had been caught red-handed, they both bolted away from the scene, but Machimbidza pursued his wife’s boyfriend and caught up with him.

Machimbidza then attacked Zhanda with his shoe on the head several times, grabbed and dragged him to his homestead where he assaulted him with open hands and feet, before clubbing him to death.