Dear JMG,
I am a 30 year old female that lives in Canada and recently I went to my homeland Jamaica for 8 weeks and met a 22 year old guy that I absolutely fell in love with. The minute I saw him I knew he was for me. From day one we have been talking and then a week into my trip we started having sex. I saw him every single day during my vacation and by week 4, we decided we wanted to be together and made that commitment to be BF/GF. I have already made plans to go back to spend 8 weeks more in June with him. We both are very serious and committed to the relationship and now that I’m back in Canada, we make sure to talk every day via text and phone calls. We spend at least 2 hours each day on the phone. My issue is with the age difference combined with the distance between us. What I’m asking is if anyone has been in situation with this type of age gap 8 years (older woman, younger male) and how about the long distance part of it. Can this work? Thanks for your time.

Sources close to David Rainsberger and the infamous G-side clan say Rainsberger was a nice guy for the most part but always wanted to be popular. Rainsberger had been assigned to Kingston, Jamaica in 2009 as an Assistant Regional Security officer. He was twenty-nine, married with two children. The post to which Rainsberger was assigned lasts for two years, after which individuals are assigned to other countries. Rainsberger left Jamaica in 2011, after completing his two years of service in Jamaica and was stationed overseas.
During his brief stay, David Rainsberger met and became friends with a lot of locals and was impressed with the spotlight and lifestyle that dancehall afforded those who were successful in it. An insider says

Unlike most embassy officials he bonded too closely with the dancehall crowd. The others would befriend politicians and affluent members of the private sector but David was taken in by the “hype” life and showers of praises from the men and women in the dancehall community. Money was never his motive as he was well paid by the U.S government and did not display signs of greed. He liked doing “favors” for the adulation of his new friends”.

. Sources close to both parties confirmed that he was indeed a nice guy and was frequently with the entertainer and his friends.
Rainsbeger’s new friends wasted no time in telling him about everyone. It is alleged that, the entertainer who be-friended him, after getting his visa, told Rainsberger that he should make sure that no one from the opposing camp got U.S visas. A picture that appeared in the Sunday Observer was said to be taken by the artiste’s manager was said to have another popular artiste beside Mr. Rainsberger. It is alleged that they all partied together and many pictures were taken by the manager via his cell-phone. Insiders say it is baffling to many of the camp members as to how the picture got in the hands of the Jamaican news paper as it was only one person who had the pictures.
Shortly after finding his new friends, Rainsberger met and started and open relationship with a young lady, who openly bragged about what they shared and posted pictures of her and Rainsberger on Facebook. His wife found out and returned to the United States, but returned after making up with her husband.Confirmed sources say that Rainsberger indeed fell inlove with the young local and told many colleagues that he wanted to divorce his wife. The problem was that in doing so he would not be able to marry the Jamaican and continue in the capacity he was assigned.It is alleged that the U.S government does not encourage this kind of arrangement. They are aware that men may stray when they are sent to international posts but it is nearly impossible for one to divorce their US wife then remarry an international local and keep their job. This would mean that they would have to strip the US wife and kids of their Diplomatic passport , remove the kids from the US Embassy schools etc., then provide diplomatic status to the new foreign wife. The grounds for this is said to be called ”moral turpitude” which represents a character flaw and can be placed a diplomat’s record. Sources say, a diplomat leaving his wife is highly unlikely and is considered a waste of time for any local to pursue married US diplomats. They will not leave their wife because it jeopardizes their job.
Another insider close to the young woman said that Rainsberger took the young woman on trips abroad, something he was disciplined for on more than one occasion as he had lied to his superiors , telling them the trips were with his family.
Things took a turn for the better when Rainsberger was reassigned overseas , his wife became pregnant with their third child and all seemed well as it was thought that he had ended things with the Jamaican local. This was not so, it is said that Rainsberger started flying the young woman out and often joked to his friends how he had to keep her hidden because she stood out among the natives of the country he was in. It was after one of the young woman’s trips that she found out Rainsberger’s wife was pregnant and all the dreams of marriage ended.
In all:-
1. David Rainberger does not seem to be a bad person . Inside sources say he was not out to get money or jewelry in exchange for visas. He simply got caught up in the hype which made him a liability to his job. It is said that his need to please others around him caused him to be easily led. This, was not good for someone in a top security role. It is said that he truly did like the Jamaican people and wanted to be a friend to all, not just the ‘up-town” rich crowd.
2. Rainberger was not the first or the only Embassy official to grant visas to friends and start relationships with locals. Women (not just in Jamaica) are known to literally throw themselves at US Diplomats. Many usually end up in marriage if the diplomat is single, however with Rainsberger, this was not the case.
3. The Jamaican girlfriend was caught up on promises of marriage, and found the world of travel and privilege to be seductive.Forgetting that diplomats travel to other countries where there are many other women:- Brazil, Panama, France, Switzerland, Africa, China, Philippines etc. are all considered exotic. She was young and impressionable sources say.
4. The DJ asked his friend, an embassy official, for a favor and it was granted.Not caring about risks taken to provide him and others with one. However, David Rainsberger knew better and his lapse in judgement cost him his job, freedom and family.

Allegations and speculations about how and why the U.S was alerted and given details about Rainsberger and his relationship with the D.J are that, upon landing in the United States on his first trip to the U.S since his visa was cancelled, the D.J was interrogated by U.S Federal Agents as to how and why he was allowed to return. It is speculated that, this was when the whole can of worms opened and it was revealed to the U.S government that Rainsberger had received two Movado watches, shoes and other items, even though Rainsberger did not ask for these items.
The artiste, is said to be planning on making use of the publicity by promoting his new single that will be made into a video, after his release from his record label is made public.

Title: three times a star ” artist / producer ”

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can u imagine the headache the woman a feel yah now when she hear seh de man
deh pon video wid next man.me hear say seh hospital almost pick har up.. dat artist/producer did only a look something from de woman. Mi hear seh him tek everything him coulda get him hands pon all har business and lef because him find a new opportunity (white foreigner )… Him nuh stop walk an brag how him new gal a gi him money fi spend nuff .. a nuh de first this video a come out, it did out 4 years ago WHEN HIM WAS A DANCER and him runway from stony hill when people find out seh a him. That time him did live wid a man and some form a jealousy and the man buss the video up deh. a police hav fi save him rass from dem nuh mob him. now him a par wid artist like him big. de amount a man weh him did deh wid caan count. A hope the white gal know seh a somethin him a look fi tief. i hope the other woman can pick up the pieces an move on.cause dis man a swing both ways an a trik both man an woman. wha inna dark must come to light

The police have released the identity of a popular tattoo artiste gunned down in Montego Bay, St. James yesterday evening.
He is 36-year-old Kevin Haughton o/c ‘Jahbari’ from a West Gate, St. James address. It is understood that around 4:30 pm, the 36-year-old was among a group of friends outside his business establishment when two armed men pounced on them.
Haughton ran but was chased and shot several times, before they made good their escape.
The 36-year-old man was rushed to the Cornwall Regional Hospital, where he was pronounced dead.

Title: pregnant or not pregnant

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Met please help I’m having a problem with my good friend she says shes pregnant but I don’t know why my intuition telling shes not being truthful certain things just don’t add up, she cant even tell how far along she is and it gets me really upset I need help…..should I confront her and tell her I don’t believe her or should I leave it be, have you ever been in this situation and it turn out the person was indeed pregnant,I don’t want to come Icc as a jerk if shes really pregnant

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