An Ejigbo Magistrate Court in Lagos on Friday granted bail to one Samson Egbeola in the sum of N250,000 for allegedly having series of unlawful s*xual intercourse with one Franca Bajou, a business woman.

Egbeola, 43, a self acclaimed prophet, was facing a 3-count charge of being an impostor, unlawful s*xual intercourse and charming.

The accused, who resides at No. 16 Akewusola St., Egan pleaded not guilty to the 3-count charge preferred against him.

The police prosecutor, ASP Nicholas Atumonye, told the court that the accusedcommitted the alleged offence in November, 2012 at Egan.

He said that the accused, under false pretence, presented himself as a prophet to the 26 years old business woman.

He said that the accused shaved Bajou’s pubic hair, cut her nails and used them to prepare charm.

According to Atumonye, the accused told the business woman to use the charm to prepare food for her husband.

The prosecutor further alleged that the accused, having brainwashed Franca, the accusedhad series of unlawful s*xual intercourse with her under the pretence that such s*xual escapades would solve all her problems.

Atumonye said that on Feb. 16, Egbeola was allegedly found with three candles and pictures which he presented to Bajou as charms which had the potency of preventing her husband from having another wife.

He alleged that the offence contravened sections 166 (d), 25892) and 130 (c) of the criminal Law of Lagos 2011.

The case till April 4 for mention. (NAN)

How to fight (disagree) like a Christian /
What to do and not to do if someone offends you

Following these communication disciplines will go a long way to avoiding and resolving conflicts in community with others (Matt. 18:15-18; Eph. 4:29).

1. Take responsibility for your own feelings, and for communicating them appropriately. Do not expect others to read your mind, your body language, or your subtle hints. Use “I” statements about your feelings and do not speak for others. Refrain from blaming others for how you feel. Say “I feel angry,” not “You made me angry.”

2. Communicate directly with the person or persons involved in an issue. Do not work through go-betweens or serve as a go-between for others. If someone asks you for information about an issue in which you are not directly involved, direct him or her to the proper source.

3. Do not speak critically about others behind their backs unless you voice the same criticisms to their faces. To avoid unhelpful speculation, give specific names when you make a critical comment in a meeting. Trying not to hurt someone’s feelings often causes even more hurt feelings in the long run.

4. State your position or concern before asking how others feel about it. Do not set someone up to give a “wrong” answer. Be courageous and put yourself on the spot first.

5. Practice active listening. Listen silently and with your whole self until the speaker has finished speaking. Then restate what the speaker has said and wait for a confirmation before responding with your perspective.

6. Provide continual feedback. Do not allow resentments to build up, and do not forget to give positive strokes as much as you can.

7. Respect and validate others’ feelings. If you do not agree or do not support another’s statement, acknowledge what has been said, then make your point. Don’t give tacit agreement if you do not agree, and express your disagreement respectfully and lovingly.

8. Use humor softly, not sharply. Don’t use humor to mask your true feelings, or to relieve tension when others share theirs.

9. Honor requests for confidentiality unless they involve critical or destructive judgments of other people. In that case, encourage the person who would take you into his confidence to go directly to the person of whom he is speaking negatively. If he refuses, then tell him that you will tell the person yourself, and try to bring peace and reconciliation between them. If you are not willing to get involved to that extent, then decline to be taken into such illicit confidentiality.

Endnote:
Adapted from Creating Community Anywhere: Finding Support and Connection in a Fragmented World by Carolyn Shaffer and Christin Anundsen, Penguin/Putnam Pub. 1993.

EXCLUSIVE: Brooklyn man fatally shot in his home may have been victim of murder-for-hire plot orchestrated by wife and her boyfriend
Omar Murray was shot and killed at his Brownsville home last month, but his wife, Alishia Noel-Murray, may have ordered a hit on her husband, which was partially carried out by her alleged lover, Dameon Lovell

Alishia Noel-Murray is accused of being involved in a plot which killed her husband, Omar Murray, with the help of her alleged lover, Dameon Lovell.
An ironworker who was fatally shot in his Brooklyn home may have been the victim of a vicious murder-for-hire plot designed by his wife and her boyfriend, the Daily News has learned.

Omar Murray, 37, took a bullet to his chest at his Lott Ave. home in Brownsville in what initially appeared to be a botched robbery on Feb. 24, law enforcement sources said.

But investigators soon learned that Murray’s 25-year-old wife, Alishia Noel-Murray, may have ordered the hit so she could cash in on her husband’s $400,000 life insurance policy, the sources said.

In an apparent home robbery, three men broke into Omar Murray’s house and shot and killed him. His wife, Alishia Noel-Murray, is a possible recipient of Murray’s $400,000 life insurance policy and is believed to have been involved in the crime.

Her alleged paramour, Dameon Lovell, 29, was one of three men collared a day after the senseless killing, sources said.

Lovell and the suspected shooter, Kirk Portious, 25, were each charged with murder and criminal possession of a weapon, sources said. They are being held without bail on Rikers Island.

Their getaway driver, 22-year-old Dion Jack, was charged with criminal facilitation. He was released on $5,000 bail.

The alleged robbers broke into Omar Murray’s home in Brownsville.

Portious has several sealed arrests that include a 2004 robbery bust, sources said — but Lovell and Jack had no criminal record before they were booked for the murder rap.

The trio implicated Noel-Murray as the one who orchestrated the sick scheme to kill her spouse, sources said. Noel-Murray has not been charged.

A viewing was held for the Jamaican-born Murray on Friday night at the Full Gospel Assembly of God Church on Sullivan Place in Crown Heights, Brooklyn.

A card from Omar Murray’s Mass. Murray was killed in February in an alleged murder-for-hire plot.

His mother, who relatives identified as Eunice Ashley, wailed as she rushed over to the casket of her dead son.

“My baby! My baby!” she cried as her family tried to console her.

Noel-Murray, who attended her husband’s wake, could not be reached for comment. Her mother declined to speak to a reporter as she left her apartment on Friday.

It was not clear how long Murray was married to his wife, but records show they moved into the Lott Ave. house — which is owned by Noel-Murray’s mother — early in 2012.

A funeral will be held for Murray at the church on Saturday morning before he is buried at Cypress Hills Cemetery.

With Kerry Burke

Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/brooklyn/exclusive-man-vic-murder-for-hire-plot-article-1.1283696#ixzz2N5hyQXCN

Which Ethnic Groups Molest Children?

Are there ethnic groups in which child molestation does not occur? Probably not. Results from the Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study suggest that each ethnic group studied has child molesters among them. Once again, the percentages bear a resemblance to the U.S. Census. (See “The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study” for further details about ethnic groups).

TABLE 3
Ethnic Groups: Admitted Molesters vs. All American Men

Admitted Child Molesters

American Men
Caucasian
79%

72%

Hispanic/Latin-American
9%

11%

African-American
6%

12%

Asian
1%

4%

Native American
3%

1%

Sources: The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study and the 1999 U.S. Census Statistical Abstract
Note: 3,952 men who admitted to molesting children were compared to American men of various ethnic groups. Asians were under-represented in the complete sample of 15,508 men. They were 1.2 percent. Native Americans were over-represented in the complete sample. They were 3 percent. Both groups had child molesters in proportions equal to their percentages of representation in the complete sample.

Which Children Are Molested?

Children are most at risk from the adults in their own family, and from the adults who are in their parents’ social circle. In fact, 90 percent of abusers target children in their own families and children who they know well. Furthermore, research suggests that the risk is across the board: Child molesters come from every part of our society, and so children from every part of our society are at risk.

TABLE 4

Which Children Do Child Molesters Target?

CHILDREN IN THE FAMILY

Biological Child
19%
Stepchild, Adopted or Foster Child
30%
Brothers & Sisters
12%
Nieces & Nephews
18%
Grandchild
5%
CHILDREN IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

Child Left in My Care
5%
Child of Friend or Neighbor
40%
CHILDREN WHO ARE STRANGERS

Child Strangers
10%
Source: The Abel and Harlow Child Molestation Prevention Study.

When it comes to infidelity, we thought we’d heard all the excuses in the book. Not so, apparently. We conducted a small research and found people are sharing the ridiculous excuses they’ve heard from their partners. One example? “It was my friend sending those x-rated texts from my phone, not me!” Sure.

If you have something similar to share with us, feel free to! Let’s continue our research… And never ever fall into these sweet-sounding traps.

“I didn’t know what I was doing, she means nothing to me”

If your partner deletes texts messages

“I was drunk and didn’t know what I was doing”

“She’s lying, she’s just obsessed with me”

Everyone knows your ex cheated on you regularly, now all of a sudden you have a higher standard? That’s unfair to me.”

“I didn’t do it, baby. Why don’t you believe me and not the rumours you’re being told?”

“It was just a side quest.”

“My phone was dead, I couldn’t find my charger. I swear I wasn’t ignoring your call.”

“She kissed me, I didn’t kiss her.”

“We were on a break.”

“This isn’t what it looks like, she came onto me!”

“You weren’t there for me, I needed you!”

“She didn’t matter. It was a mistake.”

“I was drunk and I thought it was you.”

“You only live once.”

“I didn’t feel wanted by you.”

“It was my friend who sent these messages, not me!”

“Oh, I have that e-mail for spam.”

“I wish you hadn’t found out because I was just about to end it.

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