Forgiving Infidelity – A Personal Story
Forgiving infidelity starts with admitting it. I know first-hand the anguish that marital infidelity can inflict, but not because I suffered from the pain — it was because I caused it. I was sexually unfaithful in both my first and my second marriages. Actually, “sexual unfaithfulness” is just a euphemism for “cheating,” and I definitely cheated on both my husbands.

My story of adultery actually began before my first marriage. I had my first affair with a married man when I was 19 years old, and my pattern of adultery and marital infidelity continued for many years after that. Ironically, I grew up in a fairly conservative household that frowned on premarital and extramarital sex, and I remember early in my teenage years wanting to remain a virgin until I got married. However, I also wanted to be noticed by members of the opposite sex, so I spent a lot of time making myself attractive and “sexy” for them. I felt empty if I wasn’t trying to attract a man, yet once I had gained his attention and had begun an affair, I soon grew bored and began looking for a new conquest.

I never thought of myself as the “other woman” type, but without a doubt, I was the other woman. There were times when I was even “friends” with the wife of the man I was having the affair with. My behavior was abominable, but I had myself convinced that everything was all right because I never intended the break up anyone’s marriage. I just wanted to see if I could entice a man enough that he would cheat on his wife to be with me. Although I know of only one wife who found out about me, I’m sure that I caused all of the other wives excruciating pain. For that I am truly sorry. “Sorry” doesn’t really begin to cover it, but unfortunately that is all I can offer at this time.

With my sexual history, I should have never gotten married. I cheated on my first two husbands before and during our marriages. I couldn’t seem to stop myself. Although my extramarital affairs certainly involved sex, ultimately, they were not about sex. My marriages were not sexually dissatisfying, so it was not sex that I was seeking when I had affairs. Instead, I was searching for something to fill the emptiness in my life-the hole in my heart that never seemed to heal. Some people use drugs, alcohol, or money to try to fill that emptiness; I used sexual affairs. I had what is known as a “process addiction.” I needed the “high” of my latest sexual conquest to feel alive-to feel anything.

I “needed” my sexual affairs until, at age 35, I finally found the one and only thing that could fill the emptiness and heal my heart for good — or should I say, “the one and only person.” That person is a man, but He is not just any man; He is the perfect man. He is the man, Jesus Christ. When I was 35, I had sunk about as low as I could go. A friend introduced me to Jesus and I gave my life to Him and accepted Him as my Lord and Savior. Because Jesus is God, and He is my Creator, He is the only one who knows me inside and out and is able to heal me of my addiction. When I asked, He forgave me of all of my sexual sin and He cleansed me of my immoral lifestyle.

Forgiving Infidelity – The Biblical View
Forgiving infidelity is essential. God takes a very strong stance against marital infidelity. The term adultery is used 15 times in the Old Testament and 18 times in the New Testament. Every mention is some sort of admonition about or against the act. In the book of Proverbs, we learn that whoever commits adultery lacks understanding and destroys his or her own soul. “You shall not commit adultery” is the seventh of God’s Ten Commandments to us, and in Jewish law, anyone who committed adultery was to be given the ultimate punishment and be put to death. There were not a lot of offenses punishable by death in the Jewish law, but adultery was one of them. That’s how strongly God feels about marital infidelity.

Forgiving Infidelity – Where to Get Help
There is help for forgiving infidelity. God created the sacred bond of marriage between a man and a woman and He wants to protect that bond, so He gave the commandment against adultery. God knows that marital infidelity will tear a marriage apart, so He never condones it, and He always requires that the offenders be punished. However, He also knows that we are weak, selfish individuals who will commit adultery despite His warnings and commandments, so He provided a way for us to break out of our destructive, sinful patterns.

God sent His only begotten Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer the ultimate punishment of death for our sins. Jesus died in our place; He died in my place. I committed the adultery, yet God put His only Son to death for it. This is God’s grace to me. I put my faith in Jesus Christ as my Savior and God wiped away my sins. I started my life fresh, as if I was just born (actually reborn through God’s Holy Spirit); and through the power and love of Jesus Christ, I was able to stop committing adultery. The strength did not come from within myself. Believe me, I tried to break my destructive pattern on my own several times, but I was unsuccessful because I was focused on me. I still had that emptiness that needed to be filled. Only a relationship with my loving Creator could fill that emptiness. Through that relationship, Jesus changed me so that rather than being focused on myself, my heart was turned toward helping others. As I began to look outside myself and see the needs of others, my life was no longer empty. I was excited (and continue to be excited) about my future of serving others and glorifying God.

Forgiving Infidelity – The Source of Forgiveness
If you are struggling with the issue of marital infidelity — either as someone whose spouse has or is being unfaithful, or as someone like me who was (or is) an unfaithful spouse — you can find the same help I found in the person of Jesus Christ.

According to the irate residents, police officers opened fire on the blue Suzuki Swift she and other persons were traveling in.
Veronica Nelson, the mother of 16-year-old Vanessa Kirkland who was killed by police last night, grieves for her child. (Photo: Garfield Robinson)
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The protesters claim that when shooting stopped, Vanessa fell out of the car. She was still alive, and was crying for help but officers refused to help. She died on the spot.
A second girl was shot in the stomach and has been admitted to hospital in serious condition.
Vanessa’s mother Veronica Nelson, described her as a friendly, happy child and an avid member of the Greenwich Farm All Star Marching band.
The child was slated to sit eight subjects in the upcoming CXC examinations.
Related story:Teenage girl killed, five others injured by cops off Spanish Town Road

Read more: http://www.jamaicaobserver.com/news/Greenwich-Town-residents-protest-police-killing-of-teen#ixzz1pnEl9Hrw

We don’t need to panic right now — Bunting
BY PAUL HENRY Crime/Court Co-ordinator [email protected]
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
DESPITE the daily reports of murders across the island, Security Minister Peter Bunting says there was no need for panic as police statistics are indicating a decline in homicides.
To bolster his assessment, the security minister, who was speaking at yesterday’s Private Sector Organisation of Jamaica (PSOJ) Chairman’s Club Forum at the Jamaica Pegasus Hotel in Kingston, assured the gathering of influential business leaders that his ministry had a handle on crime.
“Essentially, what I wanted to show from this is that we don’t need to panic right now because [murders] have not gone up relative to where [they were] in the second half of last year. In fact, we are seeing some encouraging signs with the rates coming down,” said Bunting.
Bunting spent most of his presentation reiterating plans to fight crime, including going after the drug kingpins, targeting gangs and benefactors of crime. He said during the question-and-answer segment that the People’s National Party (PNP) administration has the political will to effectively battle crime, which according to multiple studies, has adversely affected the growth of the economy.
“What I do know is that here is he political will to take the tough decisions to move the country forward,” said Bunting.
Earlier in his presentation, the security minister said that the necessary legislative framework, such as the ant-gang bill, would be fast-tracked. He also reminded that a national crime policy was being worked on in tandem with the University of the West Indies.
Bunting also reiterated the target of reducing homicides to 12 per 100,000 people by 2017. That figure would result in about 320 murders per year, or less than one murder per day. Jamaica currently averages three murders per day.
The country has seen an average homicide rate per year of 1,000, which hit a peak of 1,680 in 2009.
The security minister also used the opportunity to respond to critics who have said that there is always an increase in crime/murders whenever the PNP forms the Government.
“Since about the middle of last year the murder rate is more or less where it is now. In fact if you compare the first quarter of this year with the last quarter of 2011 murders are actually down,” said Bunting.
“I had to put [that] in because of the political attacks I have been getting that PNP ‘tun up de ting’ with murders when in fact [the murder rates under the PNP] in the first quarter is lower,” he added.
Bunting said that he was particularly encouraged that the murder rate for March so far is 2.5 per day.
Up to February 24, the police have reported 165 murders.

Adija Vybz Kartel Palmer showed up for The home Circuit court today, March 21, 2012, with a fresh haircut,navy blue suit and tie. It is said that the witnesses are not cooperating with the prosecution and were absent which made the case unfit to go on and was postpone until April 13,2012.

Former wife of Mr Lexx, now pregnant for Busy Signal..Really praying for you Tunya…safe delivery..

People this is not a negative post so if you cant keep it positive…please don’t comment..these ladies are maybe having it rough already.. thank u

PRICELESS COME INTRODUCE YOURSELF AND TALK TO US…OK

Immaculate high student fatally shot allegedly by police

Controversy surrounds the fatal shooting of another civilian allegedly by the police on the evening of Tuesday March 20.

16 year old Vanessa Kirkland a student of the Immaculate Conception High School died after being shot during a police operation on Norman Lane off Spanish Town Road in Kingston.

Five others including four women were injured.

The shootings occurred about 9pm while persons were reportedly making their way to a birthday party in the area.

Reports are that Vanessa and other persons were travelling in a Suzuki Swift motor car when on reaching the event they were approached by a team of police officers.

A resident of the area says explosions were heard shortly after.

Checks revealed that Vanessa and the other passengers in the vehicle were shot.

The injuries sustained by the five others are not considered life threatening.

A team from the Independent Commission of Investigations, INDECOM was dispatched to the scene to conduct a probe on Tuesday night.