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A MAN offering voluntary service at a children’s home allegedly raped a mentally challenged ward at the institution recently.

The alleged incident has spawned serious questions about the need for antecedent checks on persons who are allowed access to such institutions.

When approached by The Sunday Gleaner, head of the Child Development Agency (CDA), Carla Francis Edie, confirmed receiving reports about the alleged rape. She described the alleged sexual abuse of the mentally challenged ward as a “quite unfortunate” incident that “most certainly” could have been avoided.

Francis Edie assured our news team that there was no attempt to sweep the reported rape under the carpet as the police were investigating the matter.

The sexual predator reportedly went to the home as part of a group which painted a section of the premises and constructed lockers for the female residents, all of whom are either mentally or physically disabled.

The alleged ordeal occurred on a Sunday in March this year. While the other members of the group of volunteers were ostensibly busy working, the culprit, it is reported, lured the mentally disabled resident down to the male dorm and raped her in the bathroom.

Staff members at the home became aware of the ordeal after the ward was heard recounting the details.

During a visit to the home last week, our news team was told by a worker that the ward’s level of mental retardation has prevented her from coming to grips with what allegedly happened to her.

As a result, attempts at counselling the young woman have not been fruitful.

“If you ask me, that person is as sick or sicker than her,” said the worker, on condition of anonymity, as she described the man whom it is believed committed the crime.

Attempts to get more information out of the CDA on how the volunteer reportedly was able to rape the victim on the premises during daytime hours without anyone seeing or hearing anything were met with resistance.

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Dahlia Cole, who is attached to the agency’s public relations and communications unit, refused to provide the age of the ward. She also shot down a query seeking to establish that the ward was mentally challenged.

“Again, I can’t respond to that,” she said. Cole said the agency was not responding to the questions because the reported rape was now a police matter.

A subsequent visit to the home revealed that the ward has been living at the home for more than a decade. Our checks also revealed that the alleged rape occurred on the male dorm because the workers and other residents were in the designated play area.

While unwilling to provide details on how the breach occurred, the CDA, in a terse statement, noted that it was “committed to safeguarding the rights of children in care”. The release failed to say how the agency planned on accomplishing the stated task. It also did not mention steps taken to ensure that there is not a recurrence of the alleged rape.

When our news team visited the home, access to the compound was gained with relative ease. No security guard was seen on the property, and the gate was not closed properly as it was damaged. Even after gaining access to where some of the children were seen sitting on a bench, no adult was in sight. When our news team was about to leave the premises, a young man was seen with a chain and padlock in hand heading towards the gate.

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Choose Your Friends Carefully
For those of you who have really entered into a true Spirit-filled, full-surrendered walk with the Lord where He is now leading your life in the direction that He will want it to go in – one of the first things that you will find happening is that God will start to prune out the people that He does not want in your life and start to bring in the people that He does want in your life.
As you will see in the Scripture verses I will list below, the Bible tells us to choose our friends very carefully in this life. These verses will tell us that he who walks with wise people will become wise himself, but that he who keeps company with fools will be destroyed. The Bible tells us that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers, that we are to stay away from people who cause divisions and offenses, and to withdraw from every brother who walks disorderly.
This does not mean that we cannot work with the lost, the downtrodden and the people who need to find God and His message of eternal salvation. When Jesus came to our earth in the flesh, He always went after the sinners and the outcasts. But when Jesus went after these sinners, it was always for the express purpose of getting them saved and cleaned up.
Jesus did not chase after everyone. He ripped on the Pharisees and many of the high-ranking Jewish leaders. Some people are open to be helped, others are not. The Bible tells us to stay away from people who are considered to be “dogs” and to beware of people who are “evil workers.”
One of the first things that God will do with your life once you come into a full surrender with Him is to start to set some boundary lines. He will now decide the path that you will now follow in Him. He will now be leading you into the specific jobs that He will want you to have in this life. If you are single and have not married yet, He will lead you to the mate that He will want you to marry if it is in His perfect will that you get married in this life.
And once those boundary lines start to go up – one of the first things that God will do is decide who is going to be coming into those boundary lines and who will be going out. In other words, God will be deciding who your true friends are going to be in this life and who will not.
The main reason God will be helping you to choose who your true friends are going to be in this life is because His ultimate and highest aim for you is to transform and sanctify you. In other words – He wants you to spiritually grow and mature in your walk with Him.
The Bible tells us that we are transformed by the renewing of our minds. God’s ultimate aim for us is our sanctification – where He starts to begin to mold and transform us into the express image of His Son Jesus Christ.
The main reason that God will start to take out the friends in your life that He does not want you to have is because some of these people may be negative influences in your life. They may not be open to growing and maturing in the Lord like you will be, and all they will do is try and hold you back when you start your own spiritual journey and growth in the Lord. They will start criticizing and making fun of you and all they will end up doing is stunting your growth in the Lord.
God will not be putting up with this, and He will thus be taking all of these bad and negative influences out of your life very early on once you enter into this full surrendered walk with Him. For those of you who are married and have children – it is the same thing when you do not want your children hanging out with other children who you know would be a bad and negative influence on your child.
You know that if your children start hanging out with the wrong type of crowd, they can become very easily corrupted in a very short period of time. As a result, you will become very protective with your children and you will watch them very closely when they are old enough to start choosing who their friends are going to be.
It is the exact same way with God the Father! This is why God will be moving very early on to take out these negative influences in your life. Once this starts to happen, you have to go with the program or you could cause God to start pulling back on you. And once that starts to happen, you could then start to backslide and everything could then start to shut down.
If you will allow God to prune out the people that He does not want you to have in your life – then what He will start to do is to bring in the people that He will want to have in your life. I call these types of friends “God-friends.” These people will be other good, godly, Spirit-filled Christians who are truly walking in good stead with the Lord and they will now be the people that He will want you to share your walk with!
As you will see in the Scripture verses listed below – you will need other good, solid Christian friends in your life to help you grow in the Lord. The Bible tells us that we can only “know in part.” No one has all of the answers to everything. By sharing your walk with other good, solid, Christian friends, you can each help each other out in your pursuit of the knowledge and ways of God.
You will know some things about God they may not know and they will know some things that you may not know. You thus are able to help contribute to each other’s storehouse of knowledge in the Lord.
One of the verses listed below state that two friends can help sharpen each other up like “iron sharpens iron.” Just like one piece of iron can make the other piece of iron extremely sharp by rubbing up against it – two solid Christian friends can also have the same type of positive effect on one another by sharing their own personal walks in the Lord with one other.
By having other good, solid, Christian friends to share your journey with – you will literally accelerate your spiritual growth and development in the Lord because you will have more than one source in which to feed and learn from. You will be learning about God from all of your own personal adventures and experiences with Him – but you will also be learning more about God from all of your other friend’s personal journey and experiences with Him.
How many of these types of God-friends can you expect God to bring in? Only God will be able to answer that for each and every one of you. Some may only get one or two to start off with, others may get 5 or 10. Let God make the decision as to how many and when they will be brought into your life.
What I have learned is that it is not the quantity or amount that comes in – it is the quality. You are much better off having just one or two good, solid, quality friends as versus 10 or 15 that are not as good, quality friends as the one or two may be.
Every Christian is operating at different levels of spiritual development with the Lord. God knows best as to who would be best suited for you at the level of spiritual development that you are currently operating at with Him. When God does bring in these types of special God-friends to share your journey with – they will be real treasures! These God-friendships will be anointed by God Himself due to the quality feedings and interaction that will occur in them.
Sadly, what you will find out very early on, is just because someone may be a saved and born again Christian does not mean this person has their act together in the Lord. Some people have become too judgmental and too critical in their walks with the Lord. Some have become too arrogant and pompous, thinking that they have all the answers to everything. They will tend to look down on anyone else who is not operating at the knowledge levels they are operating at.
Some have become so flaky in their walks with the Lord, that they have lost touch with reality and you won’t be able to connect with any of them. God knows best as to who will be best suited for you at your current level of spiritual development with Him – so let Him guide you to the ones that He will want you to connect with.
I have seen God do this so many times for others, that I literally consider it a miraculous piece of work – especially as to how He gets you to meet some of these people in the first place. Some of these chess moves are quite incredible, as most of these people will be total strangers to you until God moves in to match the two of you up.
The other thing that could occur besides God matching you up with total strangers is that He may move on someone else you may know, but that you are not particular good friends with. That person then gets saved and plugged in, and then they find out that you too are saved and plugged in – and now a good God-friendship can start to build up as you now have something in common with one another to start to build a good, solid friendship with.
This could be another member in your family, someone that you may work with, a friend who you may have known from your past, or someone you may see at church from time to time but never really talked with. The possibilities are endless as to where these people may come from. These God-friends can come from anywhere and at anytime – so keep your radars up – as you never know when God may move to bring one of them into your life.
Now I will go to the actual Scripture verses confirming all of the above for you.
1. Choose Your Friends Carefully

This first verse is the one that will tell us to choose our friends very carefully in this life. This verse should literally be burned into your memory banks so that you never, ever forget this basic, fundamental command from the Lord! Here it is:
“The righteous should CHOOSE HIS FRIENDS CAREFULLY, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.” (Proverbs 12:26)
Notice this verse is specifically telling us that if we do not choose our friends very carefully in this life, that we could end up choosing the wrong type of people to become friends with and they can then end up leading us astray from God and with what He wants to do with our lives. Many of God’s people have lost their calls in Him because they chose to hang out with the wrong type of people or the wrong crowd.
2. Benefits of Choosing Good God-Friends

Here are six very interesting verses showing you why God does want you to have other good, solid Christian friends to share your walk with.
These six verses will show you that there is safety in the multitude of counselors, that plans can go awry without having other people to hash things out with, that war is waged by having wise counsel with others, that learning is increased by listening to wise counsel, and that if you cease to listen to wise counsel – that you will start to stray from being able to acquire more knowledge in God.
“Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14)

“A wise man is strong, yes, a man of knowledge increases strength; for by wise counsel you will wage your own war, and in a multitude of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 24:5)

“Every purpose is established by counsel; by wise counsel wage war.” (Proverbs 20:18)

“Without counsel, plans go awry, but in the multitude of counselors they are established.” (Proverbs 15:22)

“Listen to counsel and receive instruction, that you may be wise in your latter days.” (Proverbs 19:20)

“Cease listening to instruction, my son, and you will stray from the words of knowledge.” (Proverbs 19:27)
Once you turn the reigns of your life over to God for Him to fully handle, He will now make sure that you get matched up with the right kind of people that you can become true God-friends with.
3. As Iron Sharpens Iron

This next verse is extremely fascinating as it tells us that two friends can help sharpen each other up as iron sharpens iron. A true God-friend can help keep you sharp in the Spirit, let you know when you are getting too far off track, help you get through and make sense of some of the downswings that can occur in your walk, confirm and help bear witness when you are on the right track, give you pep talks when needed, and help keep you in the game when you start to get too mad and too frustrated when things do not go your way.
You each serve to help keep each other up in the Lord so that you both can continue to stay on the straight and narrow road that God now has you set up on. You can also help each other out if one starts to be tempted to do something they should not be engaging in. Here is the verse:
“As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” (Proverbs 27:17)
A true God-friend will always be honest and straight forward with you. You cannot help keep each other up and sharp in the Lord unless you are both willing to be totally honest with one another.
4. Do Not Be Unequally Yoked With Unbelievers

These next seven verses will tell us not to be yoked together with unbelievers, foolish men, dogs, evil workers, those who are disorderly, reckless, contentious and always causing trouble and strife.
There is one verse in particular that tells us that “evil company corrupts good habits.” This verse perfectly shows us what can happen to any of your children if they start hanging out with the wrong type of people.
Here are 7 good verses telling us to stay on our side of the fence, and to stay away from all of the bad apples who have no desire for God or anything that He stands for.
“Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)

“He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.” (Proverbs 13:20)

“A scoffer seeks wisdom and does not find it, but knowledge is easy to him who understands. Go from the presence of a foolish man, when you do not perceive in him the lips of knowledge.” (Proverbs 14:6)

“Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers …” (Philippians 3:2)

“But we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you withdraw from every brother who walks disorderly and not according to the tradition which he received from us.” (2 Thessalonians 3:6)

“Now I urge you, brethren, note those who cause divisions and offenses, contrary to the doctrine which you have learned, and avoid them. For those who are such do not serve our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly, and by smooth words and flattering speech deceive the hearts of the simple.” (Romans 16:17)

“Do not be deceived: “Evil company corrupts good habits.” Awake to righteousness, and do not sin; for some do not have the knowledge of God.” (1 Corinthians 15:33)
All of these verses are giving us major warnings that we are to stay away from all of the bad apples in this life who will do nothing but try and bring us down to their lower way of living in this life. Many Christians have had their lives totally ruined and destroyed as a result of marrying the wrong people or choosing the wrong kinds of friends to hang out with

Hijack pain lingers – Stephen Fray’s mom, dad still hurting

Two years after CanJet drama – ‘It cannot be how you deal with a young life’

DAWN Fray has difficulty putting into words the toll her son’s incarceration has been taking on her and her family. “It’s really hard. It’s so difficult, so strange… I can’t find the words to tell you,” she reveals to the Sunday Observer. Her words are interspersed with long pauses and sighs.

On April 19, two years ago — the first of a two-day official visit to the island by Canada’s Prime Minister Stephen Harper — her son Stephen breezed past security at Montego Bay’s Sangster International Airport, boarded CanJet Flight 918 — a Canada-bound charter — wielded a gun and ordered the crew to take him to Cuba.

He held the passengers and crew hostage for hours, before being overpowered by police.

Young Fray was slapped with 10 gun-related charges, including assault, illegal possession of firearm and ammunition, shooting with intent, robbery and breaches of the Civil Aviation Act. Rejecting his defence of insanity, the court found him guilty of eight of the charges and sentenced him to 83 years in prison, which will run concurrently, meaning he will serve 20 years.

But his family is appealing. They believe Stephen was wrongfully charged and that the punishment was harsh and excessive. In the meantime, they struggle daily with the reality of the situation and in two recent emotional interviews with the Sunday Observer Stephen’s mother and his dad, Earl, told us about the hurt, distress, and burden of t

he legal fees and how they rely on their faith to get them through.

“It is gross. It’s unheard of and I wonder what the agenda was… It’s ugly. He was so young. What he needed was care and protection,” Dawn Fray said of the sentence, her voice raw with pain.

Making the point that her son, then 22, was found to be mentally unstable by two different psychiatrists prior to his trial, and that it was his first offence, the mother said her pleas to the judge for mercy should have been heeded.

“It cannot be how you deal with a young life. You have to be humane and contemplate the future,” she said.

Earl Fray was just as upset that his son was being treated like a common criminal.

“The youth of today are the future of tomorrow and if we don’t help them we’re going to

be in some serious trouble,” he said. “You put a sick person with hard-core criminals, murderers, gunmen, it’s only going to put more pressure on that sick person because he is going to think that another inmate is going to slash his throat or beat him up and just create more problems.”

The Frays are divorced and live in different towns, but determined to keep their son’s spirits up, they make the trip to the prison in Kingston regularly. He has good days and bad days, they said, but are encouraged that he is taking his medication and tries to keep occupied by reading the Bible and magazines they take him.

“He’s up and down. He has his episodes. Sometimes he’s lucid and another time you have to make an effort to figure out what he’s saying and times when he won’t clean up or anything. Every couple of weeks he has his episodes,” Dawn Fray said.

I go up and down, too,” she quipped, referring to how she deals with the situation. “I have my episodes, but you have to deal with the reality of the situation. He’s there and you have to keep him stabilised so that he doesn’t lose hope.”

Added the senior Fray: “We just try make sure him get him visits and make sure him keep the faith because in there, you need the faith.”

“I’m particularly concerned that he gets good food since he is on medication, but most of the time when I visit I spend a lot of time reassuring him, telling him everything is going to be OK, and that’s what keeps me grounded also. When I talk to him, hear him and touch him, I feel better. That’s my medicine, so to speak,” said his mother, who taes a home-cooked meal, cereals, snacks and fruits each Wednesday when she visits.
For Earl Fray, coping means praying, immersing himself in workouts and listening to music. He admitted to crying alone and said he has trouble sleeping, some nights.
“To keep my sanity I pray to God,” he said. “I give God thanks (for) keeping me strong. I have to keep strong for (my family).”
Of late he’s been keeping a low profile; he doesn’t go to church as often and he has scaled back his visits to the Dolphin Cove swim club where he is a member. He doesn’t want to have to rehash the story everytime someone asks, he said. It’s too painful.
One of the things he finds particularly vexing though, is the way, he said, inmates, especially those who are mentally ill, are treated while in lock-up.
“The system out here, I don’t know how people cope with it. You can see that some of these youngsters in there don’t belong there. You can see that some of them just get themselves caught up. You can see that they just need some help, not Stephen alone, other people’s kids, too,” he said.
“What got me so shocked was when I went to Tower Street and yuh see when yuh loss people pickney, ah dere so yuh see dem, enuh! Dere so yuh see dem! When I saw them I almost break down, man,” he told the Sunday Observer.
“You cyaan really blame the warders or the policemen there because they get orders to carry out dem work. All they do is just go there, they don’t even see that whosoever is to take dem medication taking it. They just lackadaisical,” he alleged.
“Yuh cyaan do that! Yuh can’t treat people like that, because they are just human like anybody else.”
Commissioner of Corrections Colonel Sean Prendergast confirmed that young Fray is now being held at the Tower Street Adult Correctional Centre, after being transferred from the facility on South Camp Road almost three months ago. He would only say it was out of “security concerns”.
He, however, disagreed with Mr Fray’s take on the treatment of inmates.
“I don’t agree,” he said when informed of the father’s comments.
“(Stephen) is seen by the institution psychiatrist on a regular basis and they check to make sure he is taking his medication. I have spoken to Mrs Fray on a number of occasions to allay her fears and to let her know that we are in fact taking care of her son,” he said.
That point was corroborated by Dawn Fray. “I’m reassured by the authorities that he does get what he needs,” she had told us earlier.
But the cost of the medication is hefty, and leaves the family wondering how others less fortunate than themselves manage.
“Boy, suppose we didn’t have a little money?” asked Earl Fray. “I can’t imagine other people who don’t have money to afford that expensive medication. They can cost up to between $12,000 and $15,000 a month. So you wonder what’s going to happen to those people’s kids who can’t afford that.
“They just take the key, have them in the system, lock them up, throw away the key because you can’t maintain them. It only going to make them get worse and you lose them in the system because the parents can’t afford to help them and they just stay in there, waste them life and waste taxpayers’ money,” said a deeply upset Fray.
While the family can afford the medication, the legal fees are another story. Fray disclosed to the Sunday Observer that he has had to sell some of the family’s possessions and that they have changed their lifestyle.
“Because we’ve been trying to get the lawyer’s money together, we try and cut off a lot of things. Plus, I don’t really owe that much… We sell some things and my family members help and I’m kind of happy that I don’t have any babies because my daughter and my other son really help.
“My family really stick with me, they help with paying the bills and so on. Good friends help too, but mostly it’s family,” said Fray.
Recalling the night she learned that Stephen attempted to hijack the plane, Dawn Fray said she became instantly numb.
“I was numb. I was traumatised for a long, long time. My daughter used to say ‘Mommy’s lost her memory and Daddy’s having flu all the time’,” she said.
She admitted, however, that prior to the CanJet incident, there were signs — which she described as “frightening” — that her youngest of three children was not coping well.
The February before the attempted hijacking, while spending time with her in Mandeville, he kept his room shuttered and would spend all day there by himself watching TV.
Then there were the times he would turn his phone off for extended periods. Those who wanted to get in touch with him either had to call his dad or his two siblings.
There was also the time when the very popular, very socially active Stephen suddenly stopped going out and instead stayed home sequestered in his room.
You could almost hear the tears in Dawn Fray’s voice as she added: “Those are warning signs, but it wouldn’t have crossed my mind that it was a mental issue. I thought he was depressed, maybe, but never that it was so serious.”
His father, too, noticed the changes but thought it was a phase.
“If I had known that Stephen was going through that, I would attack it long time, but you know kids, young boys go through a phase and yuh say ‘cho, him ah grow up’… I saw that he started to keep by himself but I thought it was a phase. I didn’t know,” he said.
In spite of all the challenges, however, the family remains hopeful.
“Once he has family around and makes sure he takes his medication, he’ll be alright. So I think the best place for him is to be at home around his family members,” Earl Fray insisted. “He was wrongfully charged. Him nuh supposed to dey there so. It’s not his fault.”
But at this point the outcome of the appeal, for which no date has yet been set, will be anyone’s guess.
“I can only pray,” Dawn Fray said.