LADIES: Why MEN run away from FATHERHOOD

Everyone has a friend or knows a woman who is raising children on their own, there is no doubt single motherhood has become a norm in today’s world. There are various circumstances that lead to this but let’s focus on cases where the dad split the day he got wind of the pregnancy.

You know how it goes, the chic calls or texts with the dreaded “we need to talk” the guy says “it’s not mine” before the poor girl even says am pregnant. Either way, it’s the lady who ends up with the responsibility man or no man. The big question here is why do men do this; he has a good job, even cruises around town in a sleek car so it’s not always monetary. Here are five of the main reasons according to Eric Payne.

1. Caught Up in the “Self”
At every point in men world he is often engrossed in one thing or another. For some it’s their job, you know the type that would be glued to their laptops all night and all day, techies especially. There are others that are not so passionate about their jobs but that daily bar chat with the boys during weekdays and out of town weekend plots keeps them busy. Men get scared of losing their “lives” hence they will postpone anything that interrupts that schedule or routine and if it comes by mistake they run. Anything other than what they have programmed is chaos in a man’s mind which is why you’ll hear “…but I’m working on this and that” or “Not now.”

2. Past Experiences
There are some men who have endured physically and emotionally abusive relationships as children and whether they received therapy for this or not, they don’t trust their ability to not do the same thing to a child of their own. Its common for men not to trust themselves with the tenderness of a child, that’s why some can’t hold a new born baby. In aggravated cases a man will also fear raising the child or having anything to do with it.

3. They were never “men” to begin with.
A man is by no means some mythological archetype of human strength and perfection but rather someone who accepts accountability for their actions and owns up to them, no matter what. This isn’t the easiest thing to do considering accountability isn’t taught to a man in too many places. The only place a man can learn to be responsible and accountable is from his family or dad to be specific, which today’s family set up doesn’t provide much of. I mean, in some families the mother is the breadwinner, in others the dad provides but is never at home to discipline or talk to the kids or he is there but never gives a hoot. Simply put, boys can only learn to be men from other men and that is a rare species in the new world order.

4. A Father Yes, Husband NO
A man might be at a point in his life where he is ready to be a father but there’s a strong possibility he may not want the particular woman he’s impregnated to be the mother of his child or his wife. He might resent the idea of having wasted his “seed” on this particular woman and now being stuck with her. As a girl it’s up to you to know the difference between the two, he wants to be a father and he wants you as a wife.

When a man is in his early thirties he gets this natural urge to procreate, to be a father, this however isn’t tied to being a husband. That explains why he gets you pregnant and splits, has no qualms with taking responsibility but wants nothing to do with you as a woman. In this case the man is running from you as opposed to the child. There is also a time when a man wants a family; he wants to come home to someone, that’s the perfect time to get paged if your plan is to get him on lock down. Get the timing right, know what he wants in his life and when.

5. Low Esteem
Esteem issues affect different things in human beings and they get into play as far as procreation is concerned. When a man is responsible for a child he naturally wants to be able to give that child his all, more so the things he wished for but didn’t have.

If a man is struggling to do right by himself it certainly causes him to doubt his prospective parenting skills. Fathers don’t have the luxury of bonding physiologically with a child in the womb they therefore don’t have the connection that moms do during pregnancy. The man might convince himself that he will bring his child more harm than good and decide his unborn little one is better off without him and cause him to run.

Vibe Weekly

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He calls you from multiple phone numbers, or his numbers show up as blocked on your caller ID. Even most people who have a cell phone paid for by their job only have one, so when you hear from Mr. Mysterious from a different phone number several times per week, be suspicious. Also be suspicious if you have actually seen him with several different cell phones in a short period of time, or are aware that he only uses prepaid phones, and changes his number frequently by buying a new phone.

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He is generally secretive, but acts as such in a sly way, making it seem like not knowing a persons last name is normal. Okay, so some people are just more private than others, that’s for sure. But, if you new man always seems to dodge pointed questions about his job description, his friends, or what he does in his spare time, there’s a reason for it, whether it has to do with illegal activity or not. He may fill in the blanks when questioned with run around answers.

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He spends a lot of time in clubs. If he doesn’t show signs of being an alcoholic or even as being much of a drinker and he spends a great deal of time and money partying that is cause for worry. While some men (and women) like to club and socialize with friends after work, if you are seeing the car of Mr. Mysterious at the club on the nightly or every other night , this is a bad sign. If he is always claiming that he is “doing business” at the club, he probably is, but it’s not the kind of business you would want to be involved in.

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He wears really nice clothes, and we’re not just talking Gap or Old Navy. If his weekend lounge outfits costs more than your most prized business suit or your best friend’s custom-made wedding dress, that is cause for concern. Some men just love to dress nice, God bless them, but one has to wonder where one gets the money to spend on this type of wardrobe. This, along with other signs, is suspicious.

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He has a really nice car. I know, this one might seem weird. It’s great to date a guy with a nice car, because it shows that he cares about vehicle reliability, and it is also can be a symbol of his success in life. However, how nice of a car are we talking? If you have no proof that he has a great career (and if he did, he would be willing to talk about it… and he drives a newer 50 to 90 thousand dollar car , especially one with back up cameras and dark tinted windows, be afraid, be very afraid. Or at least wary.

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His friend’s don’t say much, and seem as mysterious as he does.They live in places like Arizona, California, Miami, and New York. His friend and he are always traveling. When Mr. Mysterious is with his friends, and they are in deep, hushed discussion until you walk up, it’s not just your imagination. If Mr. Mysterious and his friends don’t openly discuss their careers, the mundane aspects of their jobs, or keep off of the subject of jobs altogether, preferring to discuss only family and hobbies, this is yet another clue. Or, his friends might be oddly quiet altogether.

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Mr. Mysterious seems to make excuses for you two to always be alone, claiming that he just enjoys the intimacy and romance of alone time. While it is wonderful when a guy requests together time, he can’t give you the time he will see you. He will just say”I’m still on the road, or I have to see another friend. He is uncomfortable around your friends, who tend to ask questions. Another sign would be a lack of group dates, or avoidance of family get-togethers or neighborhood barbecues. However, remember that if he is really slick, he will still attend some events so you will feel confident in your relationship.

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He has different names that everyone calls him. Be sure you know the real one. If he won’t let you see I.D. well that’s never good.

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He expresses his distrust of banks, financial institutions, or government organizations.

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He doesn’t leave a paper trail. On dates or any outings, he always pays with cash, and always has a lot of cash. He rarely if ever uses credit cards, and you have heard him say on more than one occasion how he prefers to use cash.

Famous DJ of the year, Bounty Killer, is not only the voice of Dancehall but the lone artiste who has had a permanent stalker/ retired suckist ( evidence A, & C in the pictures below) for over ten years. Rodney’s heart aka Priceless, real name unknown , a citizen of the United States,left her homeland to run, walk, scream at Rodney ”Bounty Killer”Pryce with hopes of winning him over. It is said that Priceless often bought the artiste suits at well over $40,000 JMD as reward for the attention that he bestowed on her when she newly arrived on the island. Sources say although she has been the most consistent , she isn’t the only one. It is said that Lena British also gave a deposit towards the purchase of the artiste’s now impounded Range Rover.

Priceless not only has a tattoo mimicking the artiste’s last name but she has vowed not to give up on winning his affections. News of his engagement sent her into twitter frenzy. She started off by saying

” Yahweh, I know You are near. Standing always at my side. You guard me from the foe & lead me in ways ever lasting. Thanks, AbbA.”

After which she released various pictures, making indirect statements at Bounty’s fiancee Claudia Rattigan. . Sources say that Bounty has denied any present involvement with the middle aged woman but does admit to a few trysts with her in earlier years.
In Priceless’ sycosis, she went through various emotions, stopping between subliminals to ivite who seems like the love of her life, to partake in what she has made available. *Met signing out*

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