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HOPE IS NOT LOST

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Hope isn’t lost…………….

Train a child in the way he should grow, and when he is old he will not depart from it Proverbs 22:6
I remember growing up in TG, the days were not as portrayed today. “Volatile”, “Mother of all Garrisons” are phrases that often encapsulate the place I know and still not ashamed to say I grew up in. You see, this one is especially for the bloggers on JMG, as I listened in utter dismay yesterday to the “porn audio” with alleged Marcus Garvey High School students and thought to myself what life would be like for me and my sisters especially my sisters had we not overcome the perceived notion that one is limited and oftentimes incapacitated by where they live and the stigma that is attached once you mention a certain garrison especially “Tivoli”!

You see, my mother had a faith that could move mountains, she lived an exemplary Christian life and invested in her children through hard-work and dedication, I can’t recall a time when my mother was not working! When I reflect on my upbringing, I have come to realize that it was by her example that we adopted our behaviours, I think unconsciously some behaviours are ingrained in us from our parents via their own behaviours and attitude in life. We replicated what was seen and never felt the need to “mix and mingle”, succumb to peer pressure, or let the community influence our behaviour. Moreso, we were not dictated to by her, it would appear that the attitude we displayed to school and life in general was almost autonomous, we just did what we saw her do. We did not let society determine how we would “turn out”. My mother dropped out of high school when she had me, but I cannot recall a day when I had to stay from school or my sisters, she ensured that we were short of nothing. We were poor but didn’t feel poor. We were always encouraged that there is better. I went to a prominent high school in Kingston, and then went on to College where I attained a BSC, with plans to pursue my masters now. My sisters went to Tivoli Garden High, they are now abroad and in college and doing extremely well. I am a blogger and I was revolted yesterday and almost disheartened when one of our own commented that she was afraid to have children, all is not lost!

“If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn . . .
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight . . .
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive . . .
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself . . .
If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy . . .
If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to feel envy . . .
If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty …

BUT

If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient . . .
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident . . .
If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative . . .
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love . .
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves..
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is . . .
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice . . .
If children live with recognition, they learn to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn to be generous.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and those about him . . .
If a child lives with friendliness, he learns the world is a nice place in which to live . . .”
Dorothy Law Nolte, Children Learn What They Live: Parenting to Inspire Values

15 Responses to HOPE IS NOT LOST

  • simplicity says:

    amennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn :2thumbup :2thumbup :2thumbup

  • ThEXOnE says:

    This is beautiful..kudos

  • Observer says:

    Such a great read

  • Tawkchuet says:

    Who wrote this Met? Every word is true but I feel like the kids today because of more technology n information at hand are a whole new breed.
    I work a long day I’m up at 5:30 n my day ends at 7pm so I know unfortunately I won’t be the biggest influence in my child’s life n that’s were the biggest problem is these days parents r out working to provide for their children n so it becomes that behaviors n attitudes r learnt in daycare n school a lot too so……………..

  • Riches says:

    Chuet i sent it in because brightlight said something so profound yesterday it touched me, even though you are not at home most of the day trust me if you are a good parent and do right by your children they will be ok. People often express that tings and times change and as you rightly said the access to technology plays a huge role but i for one believe that the greatest influence comes from parents! most of us i believe get some of our moral compass from parents. d pickney dem yesideh sick mi stomach man and as the poem seh some come from all kinds a situation at home so dem behaviour reflects

  • Met says:

    chuet riches write it oooooo

  • Tawkchuet says:

    Riches :thanks2
    I am also childless n I tell you when I see these kids n how they behave I won’t lie I keep trying to block the voice outta my head that maybe it’s best not to have kids but ur right I would hope I would n will be the main compass point in my child’s life.

  • 187 Dem says:

    Raising children is defnintely not an easy task & reading this was definitely a good reassurance that children definitely live what they learn. This is greatly appreciated Met because Lord knows with todays society, children really need love!!!!

  • 187 Dem says:

    @Riches :peluk

  • Observer says:

    Riches :pertamax :peluk

  • Riches says:

    tenk u Obs and 187, Chuet u will be arite sometimes I worry myself and i just had a baby i fret for her wen it is her time to go to school, wi jus afi do wi best and pray that they make the right decisions

  • soap opera says:

    Thank you very much sender, hope the parents show this to some of these kids. The first case I saw today shame me so bad. 14 years old, in the country four months and already in the system. Can’t wait to see his mother.

  • sweet says:

    @RICHES, THANK YOU SO MUCH, MY HUSBAND IS ALSO FROM TG, ATTENDED KC AND THEN CAME TO THE U.S WHERE HE FURTHER PURSUED HIS EDUCATION. THE OTHER 6 OF HIS SIBLINGS ARE ALSO DOING WELL. GHETTO IS NOT A AREA, IT IS A STATE OF MIND. I ESPECIALLY WAS DEEPLY HURT BY THE COMMENTS OF A LOT OF THE BLOGGERS DURING THE DUDUS INCURSION. GOD BLESS YOUR MOTHER. AND ALL THE OTHER SINGLE MOTHERS BATTLING, AGAINST ALL ODDS TO RAISE CHILDREN IN EXTREMELY DIFFICULT CIRCUMSTANCES. IF YOU SET THE PROPER EXAMPLE, INSTILL HOPE AND STRESS THAT A GOOD EDUCATION CAN MAKE YOU ACHIEVE NOT ONLY YOUR GOALS. BUT ALSO YOUR DREAMS…. CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS, I KNOW YOUR MOTHER IS VERY PROUD OF YOU ALL.

  • Anonymous says:

    Well Said!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Children haven’t change, parenting did….
    Children live what they learn!

  • Anonymous says:

    Simply Awesome post. Thank you.

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