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IRVINGTON, N.J. (WABC) — Police in Irvington, New Jersey are searching for a man they say threw hot oil on his ex-wife as she slept in her bed.

There is a widespread search underway for the suspect.

It is in a first floor apartment in Irvington where Terri Thompson’s life changed forever.

She had gone to bed after refusing the sexual advances of her former husband who had recently moved back in with Thompson and her two children.

Her sister who has spoken directly with the victim describes what happened next.

“He goes to the kitchen proceeds to fill a pot with water and oil, boils it then puts on gloves, carries the pot into bedroom and pours it on her,” said Claudia Menture, the victim’s sister.

Badly burned and beaten, she was able to crawl to her neighbor’s apartment across the hall to get help.

Since the Friday attack, Thompson has been in serious condition in the critical care unit at St. Barnabas Medical Center.

“She is wrapped completely from head to arms in bandages. They said the skin was falling off her that’s how bad she was burned,” said John Menture, the victim’s brother-in-law.

Irvington Police are looking for the ex-husband, 47-year-old Byron Stokely, who stole Thompson’s car after the alleged attack.

The part-time security guard is wanted on charges of aggravated assault which the family says downplays the seriousness of the crime.

“Him throwing hot oil and water and beating her and locking her in, he left her to die,” Claudia Menture said.

Irvington Police are warning that anyone who comes into contact with the 200 pound, 5’6″, Stokely should use caution and contact them immediately.

“He is someone who is very violent, he needs to be caught, he’s very dangerous,” Claudia Menture said.

18 Responses to ONE OF OUR OWN

  • Observer says:

    a weh em get himself inna now doah ehh disfigure di girl n run gawn usa wikkid man

  • Monica London says:

    Oh My Days this bring tears to my eyes!!! This is really sad.What a damn wicked man

  • MURASAKI says:

    Can you imagine she lef him and then bring him back inna her life. Poor girl…

  • Cindy Royal says:

    A nuh man alone duh dem tings yah. One ooman bail jus get denied todeh a Spanish Town court – shi get locked up for throwing boiling water on har man while he slept.

  • Yep! says:

    Ladies when unu leave a man due to verbal or physical threats don’t take it lightly. I was recently granted a 12 month stalking protective order because I briefly dated a guy who became overly obsessed with me and refused to accept that I no longer wanted to date him; the verbal assault of threats/ kidnapping were so bad the judge not only granted me and my family the protective order but also order a psychiatric eval on this guy. Sad to say but some people don’t take rejection lightly

  • Met says:

    this woman will have sleeping problems maybe for the rest of her life

  • Yep! says:

    As to dis bredda ya, him soon get a different kinda oil and water… Since him lub sex suh much and a hope dem dash it pan im real good tuh. What a hateful animal :mad:

  • LUNDUN says:

    diss is so sad, diss man is so wicked. i hope he gets a taste of what he has done to this woman.

    my sympathy is with this woman and her family.

  • LadyWoW says:

    dis real sad

    I jus had a discussion this morning wid a fren about how many women that are suffering in silence. Especially in our communities.
    He abused her in the past, she allow him back, now him nearly kill har. She is lucky she even survived this attack. My prayes go out to her family

    @ YEP I am so happy u took the necessary precautions to get rid of ur problem.
    all too many times these stories end very sadly. Once an abuser always an abuser, when dem cross the line is no going back it just get more brutal and frequent.
    U have to put ur safety first and down dismiss the problem

  • Yep! says:

    @ Lady wow, the guy spell out everything via non stop text messages, all seh f— the police cause him nuh fraid a dem, how him a guh kidnap mi Pinckney dem til mi tek him back so I got a temporary protective order til the court date for the hearing, lawyered up and got a 12 month protective order. The judge was so disturbed by the nasty and vile language that she also ordered a psychiatric evaluation with possible medication for him. And this is the reason why mi nuh quick fe introduce nuh man to my kids/ family nor even date date tuh much. Much shit as mi may chat sometimes me’s a gal weh nuh ramp when it comes to the safety of my kids and me/ family.

  • Cindy Royal says:

    @ Yep – you have my sympathies. A little sistren of mine had to take a knife to her ex-man/baby father last year, killing him. He went to the house to beat her that day, in fact he was leaving his barber with the barber’s scissor when the barber stopped him & told him to go to work. He would just see her any where & beat her up, & just like u experienced, constant threats by text message, so after she stabbed him to death they kept her in lock-up for a couple of days, but several persons spoke for her & the police saw the texts so they decided to let her go, but because of his bullshit she now have to live with the fact that she killed her child’s father.

  • Yep! says:

    Cindy dem kinda taunting deh not only mek yuh have a nervous breakdown but it makes you extremely angry and you constantly haffe a ask yuhself why me why dis person a tek set pa mi suh fa?! When he testified in court he was rambling on and on about every little detail about our brief dating which was just really really awkward and then when the judge asked him questions pertaining to the text messages he admitted to sending everything. When she asked him why he continued harrassing and threatening me , his response was that he didn’t think I was seriously gonna go to the police or court about him texting me.

  • wahdirassdis says:

    wat a wicked f000a.. smh

  • Genuine says:

    This soooo saddd them fi dose him with hot tart. Wicked fat slop!

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  • Fyahwife says:

    When dem ketch dis fat phuk ( hope di pu**y coward no tek him life fus) dem fi throw som a di Sam oil pon him ransted dick since a it a badda him den lock him up fi life

    Some johncrow man or woman no know when smaddy seh dem dun wid dem fi just move the eff on dem waan force u fi stay under any means

    Poor lady hope she recover enough fi look dat nastiness in a di eye in court if dem ketch him

  • Dwrl says:

    She too feh blame, dem seh a long time him a abuse HAR til she even have order of protection against him. When she move him back in them seh the order just lift. Mi feel sorry feh HAR but she clearly no sorry feh herself because if the relationship was that bad that police and judge was involved she should have never taken him back. I feel he. Planned it, man take it to heart when police call pon dem muchless to take out order?? He must have beaten her after she refuse and while she sleeping he decide to finish her off. Mi no think a after the burning him beat HAR . Damn it man why she took him back?? Godforbids he did harm the children like the other dude that kill the girl and HAR daughter??

  • Foxy Lady says:

    I feel for any woman that’s abused, I can’t wrap my mind around why they stay and endure all that they do. Even if she’s penniless, I would assume that there are houses or centers for battered women. It might not be luxurious but it’s a way of preserving one’s life. Take the children and leave. Leave the state if you must and change your number. I just don’t understand it.
    While I know people have snapped in the heat of the moment with no prior indication of mental illness, these vile persons have displayed this behavior before in varying degrees. If a man is abusive once, it only gets progressively worse.
    If you have a restraining order on someone, why take the person back? People need to stop trusting the very people around them on judge them based on their behavior. Sick freaking world.
    Some 22 year old dude in Lauderhill just stabbed up his live in girlfriend saying he sacrificed her because her astrological sign is Taurus.
    Mad world, mad people. Tread cautiously.

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