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I had a problem with my husband about 2 months before our wedding, he suspected and accused me of having an affair he later found was not true and this was after we have dated for 5 years.

That broke my heart because I was a very decent girl and infect he disvirgined me after 4 years into our courtship after I had graduated from University. He did apologise though and even though I tried to stop the wedding he begged me and made the whole world beg me I was no longer interested but it was too late.

When we got married i realised I never enjoyed sex it is always pain and I tried to see if something was wrong with me, I tried to forgive him and free my mind and yet I still never enjoyed it. One day I listened to a voice mail a girl left for him of how much she enjoyed him and how he should not because of marriage forget her as he was too sweet on the bed, this broke my heart because i trusted him and now I realised it’s not as if he doesn’t know how to make love it was my problem.

Though I regret it now and feel guilty, I slept with an ex who never slept with me as a single girl and I must confess I enjoyed it, now I can’t say what my problem is, I never did it after then and I still don’t enjoy sex with my husband.

I feel so guilty and I wish I could confess to him and ask for his forgiveness. Is it wise to do this and please if you have ever had a similar problem what can I do to enjoy sex with my husband? Please, this is a marital and serious and real issue will appreciate genuine and helpful advice.


  • Foxy Lady says:

    Why would you confess? Did he confess to you? The man is already jealous and possessive, there is nothing good that can come from telling him. Keep your mouth shut and enjoy the guy on the side since someone else is enjoying your husband. You don’t enjoy sex with him yet you enjoy sex with someone else. It doesn’t mean that either of you are at fault. Some people are just not sexually compatible. The relationship seems doomed as sex is generally a barometer for what’s happening in a relationship. You are not in love with your husband, while you may love him, he’s just not the person that gives you butterflies. Life is short and I don’t believe in mediocre love. I believe love and sex should make the fourth of July seem like candles on a birthday cake.
    Dat cyaan work, not atall.

  • Anonymous says:

    i suggest you don’t confess the both of you need to do what make you both happy separate

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  • eyez says:

    I agree with everyone …please do not confess, it will only make things worse!

  • Yep! says:

    Sender, it’s as simple as this……Don’t ask don’t tell!!

  • Oh Dear says:

    If you are not prepared to lose your marriage, keep your mouth shut, because he might not be able to find it in his heart to forgive you. some men think its ok for them to cheat but if their wives cheat on them its totally unforgiveable.

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