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Checking his or her PHONE, right or wrong?

You trust him/her, yes you do so very much but sometimes you just can’t fight the urge to look through his/her recent messages, recent contacts, recent emails, recent bbm chats and maybe just maybe even DMs.
It doesn’t mean you are snoopy or don’t trust your partner yeah, but you just feel a little uncomfortable about where he/she told you he/she was on Friday night.
The question here is however, does it make you feel better? Or let me rephrase, does it make you feel foolish when you find absolutely nothing or worse get caught?
Ninety percent of men/women in a relationship would go the extra mile to know what their partners got up to during their “alone” time but is it all worth the risk? Here are a few things that can happen when you go out of your way to “police” your partner
You could get caught
If you get caught this leads to embarrassment and lack of trust, this time your partner would be the one not trusting you.
You could lose that relationship because not everyone reacts to not being trusted in a nice way
You might actually not get caught but you might end up feeling foolish all by yourself when all you find are probably annoying messages from your mobile provider,messages from his/her friends and other harmless messages. Then you ask yourself, why did I do this?
Maybe you shouldn’t check at all? We do not need research to tell us that a partner who snoops around his/her spouse’s phone/things doesn’t trust that spouse, but what caused this in the first place?
Something he/she said or did? How about communication? Have you tried to talk these suspicions you have over? have you tried to trash it out? Pick a day and a time and find a quiet place while you gently discuss your doubts. If you sense your partner might be lying, the only way to find out the truth is if you actually ask. If you are still not convinced, then give it time, he/she can’t fool you forever, so don’t go about snooping around the house like a guard dog.
Again, it might not be something your partner might have said, it might just be a hunch you are getting and you believe your guts never lie but again how about you discuss this and stop letting paranoia rule your relationship? Remember if your spouse judged you by some hunch or random thought, you guys might just not be together.


  • My man love check mines more time me just save man name under woman name. One time one a the woman name text me and say hey babes . Lol. And he find out my lil trick Dwl.

  • london5948 says:

    Trust is always the issue wen we start prying. A fone has personal content that belongs to the owner.
    Search @ your own risk, usually your doubts r confirmed with jus one look. I prefer to leave everyting to intuition!

  • Mr Magnificent says:

    Searching a phone might not always find what you expect because they might have a regular phone and a bunning phone that you dont know about.

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  • Little Willie says:

    Search my phone….whether you find anything or not, it will be your last day around me.
    As SWEET said, respect people’s privacy.

  • talkthetruth says:

    Exactly Mr Magnifcent, there usually is another (hidden/bun) phone. I bet it’s a man write this

  • Tawkchuet says:

    I searched my ex phone n after the relationship was unrepairable it’s best to respect each others privacy

  • Once you find the need to search one’s phone, you better be prepared to act based upon your discovery. Often times, snoopers misconstrue messages by thanking them out of context; because that person usually allow their lack of objectivity to affect their query…

    Privacy can’t be understated and I have come to the realization that it is usually those who have done their own dirt who usually distrust–see, know that you might have gotten away with your misdeeds, you fear the notion that your parter could be doing the same are worst…

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