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Women Love Tough Men, Men Prefer Good Looks

Women love their men to be powerful and dominant.

For a woman to feel feminine, she must be with a man who is masculine

Even though there’s been a trend away from the alpha male of the 1970s and 1980s, most women prefer strong men.

While most men look for good looks and good bodies, women need reliable, independent and strong-minded men. They look for men who take charge.

Psychologist Asiphe Ndlela, who is based in Illovo, Johannesburg, says girls are subconsciously hard-wired to respond sexually to men with higher values than themselves and also to men with higher values than other men in their circles.

“You’d think women like men who are soft, weak and romantic, but if there is one thing that turns women on, it is a man with dominance and aura.


Tough:Women prefer this type of men.

“Men are aroused by being dominant and by submissive women, while women are aroused by being submissive and by dominant men. In the bedroom, inequality beats equality,” Ndlela says.

She says women can spot a man who lacks dominance miles away, and adds that almost every quality of a dominant male trigger arousal in the female brain. These include dominant scents, dominant gaits, deep voices, height, swagger, bravado and displaying wealth.

Ndlela says human beings are by nature not attracted to someone who conveys powerlessness.

“For a woman to feel womanish, she must be with a man who is masculine. When she is with a guy who is not dominant, she feels he is just another girl.

“Many men are motivated to act when they sense or perceive a woman’s desire for security or for some external strength,” she says.

Ndlela says most women have submission fantasies and immensely popular submission themes on television are not helpful. She says most heterosexual women are wired to find sexual submission arousing, but this is not the case in human beings or in most female mammals.

What characteristics does a dominant man have?

Ndlela says he is ambitious, a doer, comfortable in his own skin, confident and he exudes power.

She says in every woman is a deep-rooted instinct that prompts her to gravitate to such males.

But one should never seek other people’s approval on how to behave in a social situation and never to be concerned what others think of you, she says.

“Being a dominant male is all about attitude and projecting the image of fun to be with, that you are in control. To attract women, stand with your feet six to ten inches apart and your toes pointing outward,” Ndlela says.

She explains that some men who are dominated by their partners may have experienced abuse in childhood.

“This is often due to psychological conditioning, where they have been taught to associate domination and pain as a form of love.

“Another explanation from psychology is that some men resent, or are uncomfortable with, the idea that a man must always be in control,” she says.

For these men, says Ndlela, a dominant woman is a relief from having to make decisions, asserting authority and initiating new ideas.

They don’t mind a woman taking charge. In fact, they love it. They look for women who will “wear the trousers” in the home.

Ndlela says these men are attracted to strong and confident women, who likewise enjoy holding the reins.



Met I need different opinions on a situation that way I know I’m not wrong for doing what I currently am.
I have a friend her man and my man are best friends. Anyway everything I tell her she tell her man and it goes back to my man. When me and my man have issues she gives him one opinion and gives me another. When I say back stuff to my man its an issue. Is that right? Keep in mind I never air her dirty secret them. The men she give him bun with, the men she taking money from,the belly she dash weh, his business weh she put a road I don’t reveal it to anyone but she can’t remain loyal to me so me take time draw the line between me and her keep it to hi and bye if me see her mi wrong fi that?


The founder and general overseer of Lord’s Delight Ministries located at No.51 Afolabi Stree, Ajangbadi in Lagos, Pastor Rita Obioma Obiakor and her husband, Pastor Paulinus Obiakor, are currently entangled in a web of accusations and counter accusations of infidelity and other behaviours unbecoming of people in their positions. gathered that the couple recently shared their sordid stories before an Ojo customary court presided over by T.A. Said, where the wife had dragged her estranged husband to. Pastor (Mrs.) Rita, who hails from Imo State, is seeking for the dissolution of their 15-year-old marriage.

She alleged that her husband and father of her four children has turned a thorn in her flesh. Here is her own side of the story: “My husband is on the verge of destroying all the works and efforts that I have put in place to establish this church over the years”.

“I got married to him when I was barely 16 years old, and he, 27 years. Then he had nothing, jobless and looking very unkept. I started doing odd jobs to make both ends meet. Precisely in 2005, the Lord called me into his vineyard to serve him and show his people the right path.

“My calling was a prophetic one, so was my ministry. Since the establishment of that ministry in our two-bedroom apartment at Amukoko, the Lord has been blessing us. But my husband was like a Judas to my ministry. He was always behaving abnormally to the members, until I made him a part of the church and also gave him a good post. Yet he wouldn’t let me be. He is always accusing me of sleeping with church members during night vigil or anointing services”.

Pastor Rita said her husband’s greed and jealousy has done much damage to the image she had laboured so much to build. The disharmony between the couple degenerated to the extent that she was forced to buy another plot of land at Shibiri, Ajangbadi, a faraway suburb, and constructed a new church, thereby abandoning the old church located at No. 1 Bakare Street, Amukoko.

She also abandoned their accommodation, as well as give up some members of the old church to her estranged husband. “I moved in with my children to a rented apartment close to the (new) church while my faithful members moved into our new church.. So I had to ban him from entering the church and having access to the members too,” she said.

The Husband, Pastor Obiakor stepped into the dock:
Giving his own side of the story the husband brought a new twist to the divorce case. The 45-year old clergy accused his wife of defiling the church by sleeping with prominent male members of the congregation in order to raise fund and establish herself financially.

The land she acquired for the new church and her new apartment, Pastor Obiakor alleged, were paid for with fund she raised from her illicit sexual affairs with male church members.

“My wife is the founder of the church, but as her husband, I am entitled to be the general overseer of the church. I had suspected my wife was frolicking with the wealthy and influential members of the church, my fears were eventually ascertained when she abandoned me and moved to her new church and apartment at Shibiri with a younger man she employed as her personal assistant known as Pastor Nwachineye,” Obiakor claimed.

Pastor Obiakor disclosed that his wife, Pastor Rita, has been impregnated by the pastor she employed. He went further to disclose that she even took the young man in question to the village and introduced him to her family members and relatives as her new husband. “That is a big sacrilege because I am still very much alive and active, so why would she take another man to replace me,” he argued.

But in spite of everything, Pastor Obiakor revealed that he still wanted her back. He admitted that his estranged wife was more like the bread winner of the family before their union ran into troubled waters. He said he is ready to forgive her of her transgressions and take her back as his wife if only she would withdraw the suit.

After listening to the pastors, T.A. Said adjourned to matter for further hearing.



Psalm 91

1 Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.[a]
2 I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”
3 Surely he will save you
from the fowler’s snare
and from the deadly pestilence.
4 He will cover you with his feathers,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart.
5 You will not fear the terror of night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
6 nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness,
nor the plague that destroys at midday.
7 A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
8 You will only observe with your eyes
and see the punishment of the wicked.
9 If you say, “The Lord is my refuge,”
and you make the Most High your dwelling,
10 no harm will overtake you,
no disaster will come near your tent.
11 For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways;
12 they will lift you up in their hands,
so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.
13 You will tread on the lion and the cobra;
you will trample the great lion and the serpent.
14 “Because he[b] loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him;
I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name.
15 He will call on me, and I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble,
I will deliver him and honor him.
16 With long life I will satisfy him
and show him my salvation. ”


I am putting up this thread because I want all of you who log on to say without fear of us being angry…if you have ever seen or experienced homophobic violence in Jamaica. How did they treat gays in your area,we need to hear all of your voices for all the world to hear (see/read)

Darktales: Talking about “Rebelution” and the tune “Do you still care” – do you think some artist in Jamaica don’t have the courage to say what they think or what they feel?

Tanya Stephens: [giggling] …

I don’t know… Well I’m a little bit away from the music industry in Jamaica. I live in the countryside and I don’t see many artists or musicians. I just see my band and myself, so I don’t know what goes on in the minds of the people. I just know that the image that is being painted of Jamaica doesn’t represent me. And it doesn’t represent many people from my community. I have a responsibility to recount what it is out there. The picture that’s being painted is that we are homophobic and that we are overly aggressive and violent towards people who have different choices from us. That’s not true. Jamaica is a nation which is made out of many and this is still true. It always has been true. Every kind of person lives in Jamaica and that’s why I have felt to do this. I don’t know about anybody artist, but the few guys who are talking crap, they don’t represent all of Jamaica.


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‎”JAMAICA has been in my head with great LOVE and absolute FEAR. The harsh reality that people like ME are persecuted, beaten, jailed, raped and murdered everyday JUST for being who they are or JUST EVEN BEING SUSPECTED OF IT. It’s what I saw too many times growing up in SPANISH TOWN and living in KINGSTON and it scared me to death. As a Jamaican i am deeply upset abt what u said abt Jamaica, and that Jamaicans who also comment on this did not realized or cared abt what was said, “all these can say its ur life and nuff love and respect” You are an international artist and when u say things like that u are bashing Jamaica as if we need anymore bashing than what we have been getting, yes Jamaica is a violent society and we are not HOMOPHOBIC WE ARE CHRISTIANS! and unlike America we dont comprise our RELIGION! yes its ur life style and what Gay ppl seem to 4get is that we dont care we just dont want u to force us to accept ur lifestyle and this is exactly what they are doing come on GAY PARADES? GAY MARRIAGES? Britain threatening cut off ties with Caribbean countries that doesnt suppose gay rights?
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Ariel Perkins Your conscience box was full and over flowing …set your conscience free

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U also blame the society in which u grew up in as a part of the reason why u didnt come out, but darling we are society, we make up society and people are forgetting the spiritual morals of which we were taught and that is why the world will never be better, and some of u make it seem like Jamaica is the only country that doesnt like Gay ppl what abt the Middle east some them would be killed instantly!!! i live in Jamaica and i’ve never heard that A GAY PERSON WAS RAPED, OR GAYS ARE BEING MURDERED EVERYDAY THATS THE BIGGEST LIE EVER! Gays do get beaten only because they make it obvious or do their nastiness in public and in some cases they are jail because they like to dress up as women and trick men into thinking they are and when they find out they get beaten by them and this cases happen in Clarendon once. and if the violence is so rampant in KINGSTON as you said they why dont we go to NEW KINGSTON and killed them when there roaming the streets at nites? busily screwing who they want to in cars etc…?
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The Jamaicans who are on this and didnt speak out ya’ll are unpatriotic assholes! and then the whole subject of God… Hmmm yes God loves all of us doesnt he? yes we already know that part! But get to the part where he was can also be an angry God? or we forgetting the days of sodom and gomorrah? Genesis 6:3 “And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.” so enjoy ur Lifestyle as if we didnt know u were GAY ALL ALONG! U AND MAYBE U JUST DECIDED TO COME NOW FOR MAYBE IDK PUBLICITY SINCE NO ONE HAS HEARD ABT U IN YRS LEAVE JAMAICA OUT OF UR CRAP!
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Čĥęňǻė Łǒřđ ‎@BrendetteAllen Exactly! i personally dont care enuh what caught my eye was what she said what jamaica and that gays are being rape and killed everyday which is not true and just making Us Jamaicans look bad but more importantly our country looks bad she’s a hypocrite sayin she loves her country and at the sametime bashing it!

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‎@Chenae girl we have always known and we did not give a shit about whether shi gay or st8 and for her to be saying she never said it before bcoz she feared we would have rejected her is bullshit bcoz if that was d case we would b asking Diana Who? I hate when people try to blame all their bullshit on Jamaicans…Diana d gaydar went on a long time ago even when u tried to deceive us with shy guy. Bottom line we dont give a shit or will ever give a shit..Peter Phillips budget more try ur publicity stunt elsewhere..
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